*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* Did you know that women are the first to file in nearly 80% of divorce cases? These women are not walking away lightly. They believe they have done everything possible to save the marriage before throwing in the towel. Many, many times their husbands are blindsided. Listen in as Tim Wade, a relationship coach for men, shares the work he does to diffuse the divorce bomb when she wants out.

After being blindsided by the divorce bomb and a “Walkaway Wife” in 2015, Tim Wade turned his deepest wound into a powerful message of transformation that he has shared with thousands of men worldwide.

Tim shares that women, on average, plan their escapes for two years. Some red flags for men to pay attention to include: a detachment, she stops trying to make the marriage work. She stops nagging. She stops arguing and goes about her life without including the husband in activities. She waits for “D” day.

Tim gives husbands tips on how to react when hit with the divorce bomb. Don’t become simpering fools. Don’t expect a quick fix. Take time to figure out who you are, what you want from the marriage, and what type of life you want to create. Be kind, pay attention, and talk to her. The prize is in creating the life you both want. It is possible, with personal transformation, to reclaim a happy and satisfying marriage.

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About your guest: Tim Wade is founder of Tim Wade Coaching and LionHearted Living. Tim believes men have the power to pull their marriage back from the brink through the power of personal transformation and has created a unique online course for men, “Defuse the Divorce Bomb.” Find him at www.timwadecoaching.com and www.howtodefusethedivorcebomb.com

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided by divorce that ended a 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey.

This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

*Please share this podcast with friends, subscribe, and leave a comment or question.* Are you and your spouse at the brink of divorce? Is  your marriage teetering on the edge and you are not sure if you should file for divorce? Listen in as Demetrius and Emily Russell share how their marriage was at the precipice of a cliff and they found a way back to a married life they love to live together.

Demetrius and Emily Russell have been married 27 years. Twelve years into their marriage, they entered a rocky time and Emily knew she was unhappy enough to want a divorce. Emily, by nature, was an independent woman who came into the marriage with her own identity. She had a career as a Registered Nurse and became a Business Project Senior Analyst with a major corporation. Over time, she found that her identity was lost in the marriage and she no longer knew who she was. This was not how she wanted to live her life. Demetrius was blindsided when Emily gathered the courage to share her unhappiness. The couple separated in the home, and discussed divorce.

After a period of months separated, Demetrius and Emily came to the hard truth that they wanted to fight for their marriage. They share their inspiring story of the steps they took to regain the foundation of friendship they had when they first met and the resolve to save their relationship. Demetrius and Emily also discuss the secret sauce to getting out of the rut of living as roommates and building a strong foundation for a lasting marriage.

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About your guests: Demetrius Q. Russell, MBA is a Director of Human Resources for S&P Air Control and a professional development coach. Emily Russell, MS, RN, is a Business Project Senior Advisor for Cigna Healthcare.

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after an unfortunate turn of events in my 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

We’d love to hear from you! Please leave a comment or question. A rating and review is much appreciated too! Divorce is a cruel monster. It sweeps away our self-confidence, unnerves our soul, and leaves us wondering how we will take the next step to rebuild our lives. In this episode, we will hear one man’s story of how he suffered a major career set-back that was the impetus for a holistic and deep view of personal transformation. His story has many parallels to divorce.

Demetrius Russell is a Director of Human Resources and a true thought leader in the world of professional development. He is accustomed to mentoring others to achieve their true potential. He is a people whisperer – speaking life into those who feel beaten down by missteps on the job and opening the window to their true potential and calling.

When Demetrius lost his job - admittedly his own fault - he knew he needed to step back and take time for a personal transformation. His transformation was distinguished by three key elements: spiritual health, mental health, and physical health. His journey was 382 days in the making. In the process of becoming stronger spiritually and mentally, he lost more than 50 pounds. He gained the confidence to secure his next position as a Human Resources Director for a global company where he is thriving today. Endurance is going beyond the point you want to give up. Demetrius endured despair, self-doubt, and tremendous worry, and now shares his story to encourage people wading in the deep waters of divorce.

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About your guest: Demetrius Q. Russell, MSA is a Director of Human Resources S&P Air Control, a global company based in Chattanooga,TN and a professional development coach. Connect with him on LinkedIn.

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after an unfortunate turn of events in my 34-year marriage. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

Have questions, please leave them in the comments. We'd very much appreciate a rating and a review!

Sleep is a very vulnerable psychological state and if we do not feel safe and secure in our social environment, it will have severe consequences to our ability to achieve restorative sleep. The brain has a lymphatic system and sleep serves to wash away toxins. Divorce prompts situational stress that leads to sleepless nights, which affects our ability to think logically and rationally at a time we need it most.

Listen as Morgan Adams, a double certified holistic sleep coach shares natural strategies to avoid prescription drugs, reclaim your rest and rediscover the land of bountiful sleep crucial to your good health and clear mind.

Morgan shares her story of going from relying on prescription medications to becoming a holistic sleep coach teaching others the secrets to a good night's rest.

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About your guest: Morgan Adams, MSW, is a double certified holistic sleep coach focused on the needs of women. Get her free guide to the 3 a.m. wake up: https://www.morganadamswellness.com/awake-again

About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA, is a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster with a burning drive to help people who have been in long-term marriages navigate the trauma of divorce. This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

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Episode #23 - The Path to Forgiveness

Finding your path to forgive your ex-partner is agonizing. Listen in as Angie Hooper, founder of the Forgiveness Path, shares practical action steps to break free from the pain of divorce and move forward without regrets.

Forgiveness is a timely topic for the holidays as families are gathering and as we are preparing to begin a new year and our minds are centered on transformation. Angie is a practicing attorney and certified professional coach who developed the Forgiveness Path to help people gain mastery over the skill of forgiveness.

There are many myths around forgiveness. One myth is that if we stuff it down, it will go away and we must forgive and forget. Or that forgiveness can only be realized if we are religious; we must tell the other person we have forgiven them; or we are better off following the mantra of "let Karma take care of it."

Angela shares the physical effects of hanging onto hate and the steps we must take to begin living a life free of the mental stronghold hate has on our lives.

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About your guest: Angie Hooper, J.D., CPC, is a practicing attorney and professional coach. Visit www.happyatlawgroup.com and angiehooper.com.

About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA, is a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster with a burning drive to help people who have been in long term marriages navigate the trauma of divorce. This podcast provides education and is not intended as legal advice.

It is very common for people who are in divorce to want to obtain a revenge bod. That's when you get revenge on your ex by showing him/her what they are missing. Maybe they are jumping into exercise as a coping mechanism or joining a pickleball group to meet new people. Listen as Jason Robertson, M.D., a non-operative orthopaedic specialist, shares tips on the best way to begin getting active and avoid common injuries.

Dr. Robertson recommends people undergo a functional movement screening to determine what muscle groups or joints are at risk for injuries. That screening can give you a tailored program to strengthen the areas that may be subject to injuries. A functional movement screen is generally available at physical therapists' offices.

Warming up prior to exercise is a must, and Dr. Robertson shares how to do it properly.

While we may want to dive in to an aggressive exercise program to achieve that ideal body, Dr. Robertson suggests you increase activity no more than 10 percent per week and incorporating appropriate rest days. Going aggressive too soon will lead to injuries. If you are injured, he shares guidelines for how soon to seek help.

Dr. Robertson gives unique insight into his work with professional sports teams and how he is inspired by his work.

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About your guest: Jason Robertson, M.D. , is a non-operative orthopedic specialist and urgent care clinic director for the Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics. He is also the team physician for the Chattanooga Lookouts minor league baseball team, the Chattanooga Football Club (FC), and the Chattanooga Red Wolves professional soccer team.

About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA, experienced a high conflict divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded this podcast to help others through the traumatic journey of divorce and find a new life to love.

The dating world has changed drastically over the years. If you've been out of the scene for years or decades and want to get back in the saddle again, this episode is your Dear Abby of dating. Join host Lisa and guest Pat Owens as they share real life scenarios and give advice for handling those sticky dating situations.

Have a question or a topic suggestion? Let us know in the comments and we'll address those in a future episode.

Going on a dinner date? Who should pay for the dinner? Should the check be split? Is it okay to order food for the kids left at home? Who should pay for the babysitter?

How long should you wait before being physically intimate when you start dating? Is intimacy on the first date okay or should you wait until the third or fifth date?

What would you do if you took an Uber to meet someone at a restaurant, and when you went to leave, that person jumped into your Uber without being invited?

How soon should you share if you were in an abusive relationship or were cheated on? What do you say if the other person asks how many people you have been intimate with, wanting a body count?

What is love bombing and how do you know when that is happening?

Did you know that "Come over to watch and movie and chill" is the new code for physical intimacy?

Are dating apps worth it?

How can you spark a conversation with someone you find interesting when you are at a concert or out in public?

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

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About your guest host: Pat Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for 20 years and is a Grief Share facilitator. She was divorced after decades of marriage and was widowed after her second marriage. She has a heart for helping people who are experiencing the pain of loss.

About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA, experienced a high conflict divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded this podcast to help others avoid the common divorce pitfalls and find a new life to love.

After decades of marriage, many people find themselves in a battle with their inner critic. I'm unhappy. Should I stay or should I leave my marriage? Sometimes, the decision ping pongs back and forth for months and even years, while life is suspended in veritable quicksand. We are held held hostage in our unhappiness and chained to inaction, unable to make a move in either direction. There are so many things to consider in that very difficult decision: money, the adult children, shared property, losing it all. What if you could go to someone who could aid you in discerning the best path forward for you? Join the Silver Divorce Podcast as Ellen Holtzman, a psychologist with more than 30 years of experience, shares how Discernment Counseling helps individuals and couples gain clarity around the decision to stay in the marriage or leave.

Ellen authored "Bouncing Back. How Women Lose and Find Themselves in Marriage and Divorce," which describes the painful journey many women experienced to find themselves and thrive again. It is a compelling narrative of strength and self-discovery shared through the eyes of three women. Her book can be purchased on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Bookshop.org.

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Ellen Holtzman, Psy.D is a practicing psychologist and author. She has been helping individuals and couples for more than three decades and specializes in the treatment of women who are navigating divorce. www.ellenholtzman.com

If you are seeking help from a psychologist, visit www.psychologytoday.com for a searchable directory.

To listen to the episode on Managing Relationships with Adult Children with therapist Kimberly Mathis, go to Episode 8 of this podcast.

About your host: Lisa Mccluskey, MBA, experienced a high conflict divorce after a 34-year marriage. She founded this podcast to help others avoid the common divorce pitfalls and find a new life to love.

In many marriages, women are not involved in the family finances and have no idea what is available in many different accounts. The prospect of divorce or leaving an unhappy marriage can fill them with dread and fear that this life transition may leave them without enough money to live on or they may lose what they worked to save. It is common to feel stressed about making the right financial decisions in the moment while wondering how to get from where you are to creating a secure life.

Join the Silver Divorce Podcast as Phil Weiss, founder of Apprise Wealth Management, discusses the E.V.O.K.E. financial life planning process, which walks women through a journey of self-discovery to plan for a more secure future while transitioning to a new single life. This holistic approach to financial planning helps women with the education and knowledge to feel confident and secure in their future.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

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Brought to you by: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and Medicare Misty www.MedicareMisty.com

About Phil: Phil Weiss, CFA, CPA, and RLP, is the founder of Apprise Wealth Management, a firm dedicated to helping women flourish through life's transitions. www.apprisewealth.com

About Lisa: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. This podcast is a labor of love as she brings experts to share knowledge and education to ease the divorce process for others.

The Holiday Season is a joyful and beautiful time of year. When you are separated, divorced, or in the process of divorce, it can be an extremely painful and emotional time. There are so many questions to answer. Where are the kids going for each holiday and when? How do we split the family? Can we agree on spending limits for the kids or grandkids? What about traditional friend parties? Will we both attend? Will the girlfriend or boyfriend be there? How do the in-laws or grandparents fit in?

Listen as Pat Owens, a Divorce Care facilitator with decades of experience, shares strategies for coping with conflict and the emotional roller coaster during the holidays.

The key is to plan, plan, plan and communicate. It is not too early to think through all of the questions so you can have a more memorable holiday focused on the spirituality of the season.

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

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Brought to you by: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics www.sportmed.com and Medicare Misty www.MedicareMisty.com.

About the guest: Pat Owens has been a Divorce Care facilitator for some 20 years and understands and guides people through the emotional cycles of divorce. She herself experienced a high conflict divorce after a long-term marriage and has a heart for helping others.

About your Host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired healthcare executive who was blindsided by divorce after a 34-year marriage. This podcast is a labor of love as she brings experts to share knowledge and education to ease the divorce process for others.