This is a very special milestone episode. It is the 50th episode. When this show started, I wasn’t sure we would make it a  year, but here we are and we are ranked in the top 10% globally among 3.5 million podcasts. Thank you to each one of  you for being a loyal listener. Today, we are talking about a common fear: being alone. Solitude is generally perceived as bad. People desperately seek to fill every minute of their lives with noise or other people. Yet, it is in solitude where we can become the most powerful versions of ourselves. Listen as Pat Owens, a Divorce Care facilitator for more than 20 years, shares how living alone and being comfortable in solitude pushes us to discover strengths we never knew we had. 

A common fear people have when in the divorce process is, “Oh no, I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life.” This fear keeps people in bad marriages. We’d rather put up with a bad relationship than be alone. But, think about how much mental energy we spend each day just trying to keep the peace. What if we were free of that pressure and learned to become comfortable with solitude? Solitude can be profoundly restorative.

Listen as we discuss the top five consequences of not managing our loneliness and how you can begin to savor and flourish from time spent alone.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast. You may also join the private Facebook Group: Divorce Recovery for Women Over 60.

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠⁠www.sportmed.com⁠⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠⁠

About your guest: Pat Owens has helped hundreds of people through the trauma of divorce as a Divorce Care facilitator. She has devoted more than 20 years to facilitating this 13-week Christian-based support program. To learn more, visit https://www.divorcecare.org.

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and does not replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333⁠

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #solitude #divorcecare #healingafterdivorce

If you are in the military or married to someone who is a service member and you are considering divorce, there are very unique aspects to a military divorce that you will want to know. Listen as David Smith, a retired US Air Force Dental Officer, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Certified QDRO Specialist, Military Divorce Financial Specialist, and founder of Sand Oak Divorce Solutions shares his expertise to help you avoid the landmines in divorce.

Military divorce generally follows the same process as civilian divorce, but with unique considerations due to the nature of military service. Key differences include potential delays due to deployment, specific laws protecting service members, and unique rules for dividing military retirement benefits. Divorce can also impact military benefits like housing allowances (BAH), commissary and exchange privileges, as well as healthcare. 

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast. You may also join the private Facebook Group: Divorce Recovery for Women Over 60.

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠⁠www.sportmed.com⁠⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠⁠

About your guest: David Smith is a retired (served 20 years) US Air Force Dental Officer turned Independent Financial Organizer and Coordinator. Also a Chartered Financial Consultant® (ChFC®), Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA®), Chartered Advisor in Senior Living® (CASL®), Certified QDRO Specialist™ (CQS™) & a Military Divorce Financial Specialist. He is the owner of Sand Oak Divorce Solutions. Learn more: www.sandoakdivorcesolutions.com 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidsmithcdfa/

https://www.amicabledivorcenetwork.com/ 

https://www.facebook.com/SandOakDivorceSolutions

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333⁠

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #military #marriagetrouble #militarydivorce

Do you find yourself more anxious, stressed, perhaps becoming sick more frequently? There is a reason for that. It’s called Retired Husband Syndrome (RHS). Listen in as I share what RHS is and how you can manage not to lose your health and your sanity.

RHS is a real psychosomatic illness. It refers to a physical condition where wives experience stress, anxiety, or other health problems after their husbands retire and are home more often. This phenomenon is particularly observed in marriages with traditional gender roles, where the husband's retirement can disrupt the wife's established routines and sense of independence. It is the leading cause of divorce in Japan. In America, with the wave of Baby Boomers reaching 65, it has risen here as well. Divorce among those age 65 plus accounts for 1 in 4 divorces in the US today.

RHS manifests as various physical and psychological symptoms in the wife, including headaches, sleeplessness, depression, and increased feelings of stress, irritability, anxiety, even leading to ulcers.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast. You may also join the private Facebook Group: Divorce Recovery for Women Over 60.

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠⁠www.sportmed.com⁠⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠⁠

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333⁠

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #retiredhusband  #marriagetrouble #separated

Divorce signifies the end of a marriage, a relationship, and a shared future, which can be deeply painful and evoke feelings of grief. Society does not always recognize that grief after divorce is real, causing many to keep their pain in the shadows. Listen as Tracy Nalory Fultz, a licensed clinical social worker, and owner of Heartfelt Needs Counseling and Caring Center helps walk us through healing, growth, and wholeness.

It is normal to experience Grief after divorce, as it involves the loss of a relationship, future plans, and a significant part of one's identity. Divorce grief is real and is often experienced as a process of mourning and involving a range of emotions, including sadness, anger, relief, and loneliness. It’s important to give oneself grace to grieve and time to work through the different stages. It's important to acknowledge and allow oneself to grieve, understanding that it's a journey that can take time and involve different stages. Tracy shares:

• Why grief after divorce is sometimes called disenfranchised grief and how it is unique.

• The stages of grief after divorce.

• Some ways we can begin to work through grief.

• What we should avoid when grieving.

• The indicators we should seek professional help.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast. You may also join the private Facebook Group: Divorce Recovery for Women Over 60.

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Tracy Nalory Fultz has a passion to see people delivered, healed, and prospering in their soul and life. She is a licensed clinical social worker, and owner of Heart Felt Needs Counseling and Caring Center.With close to 25 years in the field of social work Tracy worked in the area of child welfare for 22 years and has been in the mental health field for the last 13 years. Tracy's current areas of specialty are grief and loss, childhood and adult relationship trauma and she also enjoys working with single women who need support, education and space to work through loneliness, rejection, and the narratives of why and what if's. You may contact Tracy at www.heartfeltneeds.com.

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #grief #healingafterdivorce #griefafterdivorce #centerforsportsmed #medicaremisty

More couples are divorcing after age 50 than ever before. Yet, there is another phenomenon on the rise: the Silent Divorce. Many married people experience this phase for years before deciding to divorce. Some never divorce for financial reasons or they still have children in the home, or because they think this is the way it has to be when you are older. Listen in as I talk about the growing awareness of the Silent Divorce Phenomenon.

Silent Divorce is when a couple loses the profound emotional and physical connection to one another, yet they choose to stay together for financial or other reasons. Some signs:

• There is a loss of physical intimacy. "We live as roommates" is commonly heard.

• You sleep in separate bedrooms.

• You no longer have shared activities. 

• You’re both in the same room staring at different screens.

• There are fewer attempts to communicate what's happening or at all.

• You've lost the plot to your marriage, meaning you've forgotten the story line or how your romance novel began.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast. You may also join the private Facebook Group: Divorce Recovery for Women Over 60.

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4dQs75c9H5i0I81dH2wXhv

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #divorcinganarcissist #healingafterdivorce #silentdivorce

We're doing a podcast swap with the Empowered Career Woman Podcast! This episode is a departure from our normal format as we delve into the topic of how women can show up in the workplace, be seen, be heard, and receive the respect we deserve.

Dr. Veronica Anderson shares her enlightening and practical method for creating successful careers and fulfilling relationships. She also reveals the secret to getting and keeping the respect and appreciation that you crave, but haven’t figured out how to get reliably. 

Dr. Veronica is a visionary leader, accomplished physician, and the founder of Rosewater Falls, a transformative organization that combines the best of conventional medicine, integrative health, and leadership development to create a holistic approach to organizational transformation. She is the best-selling author of 4 books, including her most recent, “Get the Respect You Deserve: 7 Secrets to Getting Seen and Heard in Your Job and Relationships”  which is incredibly important for the listeners of this podcast. 

You can learn more about Dr. Anderson on her LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and on her website at drveronica.com.

The Empowered Career Woman is presented by Medicare Misty. www.medicaremisty.com.

Email: [email protected]

Facebook and Instagram: @emp.career.woman

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing: Tyler Owens

About your host: Lisa McCluskey, MBA is a retired Vice President of Marketing, Communications, and Physician Sales at CHI Memorial, Chattanooga. She is founder and host of the Silver Divorce Podcast and Empowered Career Woman podcast. Follow the Empowered Career Woman on Facebook and Instagram @emp.career.woman.  

This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes and is not intended as legal advice.

#womeninbusiness #femaleleaders #womenentrepreneurs #femaleentrepreneurs #chattanooga #empoweredcareerwomanpodcast #womensupportingwomen #inspiringwomen #Philanthropyleader #fundraisingleader #chattanooga #chattanoogatn #rosewaterfalls #drveronicaanderson

If you are struggling with emotional pain from your divorce or even events in your past and are unable to move forward in your life, listen as Patrick Ward, a neuroplastician and founder of Healing Mindshift, shares how to release emotional pain by working with the subconscious mind to rewire the memories and beliefs that quietly shape how we feel, think, and show up in life. Patrick shares:

• How our past memories quietly shape our identity, self worth, and relationships.

• What it really means to “rewrite” a memory—and how is that even possible.

• How it is possible to make a lasting change by rewiring our  brain.

• The steps necessary to rewrite our memories for lasting change.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast. You may also join the private Facebook Group: Divorce Recovery for Women Over 60.

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Patrick Ward is a neuroplastician and founder of Healing Mindshift. He helps people release emotional pain by working with the subconscious mind to rewire the memories and beliefs that quietly shape how we feel, think, and show up in life. Drawing on the science of memory reconsolidation, Patrick guides clients through deep emotional shifts that transform the way they relate to themselves, their past, and their future. https://healingmindshift.com. Instagram: @healingmindshift

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4dQs75c9H5i0I81dH2wXhv

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #divorcinganarcissist #healingafterdivorce #neuroplasticity #healingmindshift

If your divorce was the result of the trauma of abuse or betrayal, you probably spent decades in a state of confusion and disconnection. Listen as Stephanie Blyler shares her work at Connections That Heal, and how she gently guides women to reconnect with themselves, with God, and with others in a safe community. She helps women move from second-guessing and self-doubt to grounded awareness and quiet confidence in a life after #divorce. Stephanie discusses:

• What an emotionally destructive marriage looks like.

• How men use misassignment of responsibility to keep us stuck.

• How 74% of women go to their pastors for help and they often enter a crisis of faith when faced with the prospect of divorce.

• How women in traumatic relationships believe they need a man to take care of them, as they are not taught they are capable and believe the negative narrative coming from their destructive spouse. This prompts them to stay or seek a new relationship immediately post-divorce.

• Three strategies for overcoming the post divorce triggers, discovering the truth and living confidently in our faith and belief in ourselves.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Stephanie Blyler is a trauma-informed coach, writer, and survivor who helps women who love Jesus find healing and walk in freedom after the trauma of abuse or betrayal—often after decades of confusion and disconnection. Through her work at Connections That Heal, she gently guides women to reconnect with themselves, with God, and with others in a safe community. Her free Trigger Recovery Guide is a helpful starting point for anyone struggling with emotional overwhelm or intrusive thoughts.www.stephanieblyler.com/guide

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4dQs75c9H5i0I81dH2wXhv

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #divorcinganarcissist #destructivemarriage

When your divorce is final and the assets are divided, you may not think about how to protect what you have. It is vital that you think about what you need to do to protect yourself and your estate in the future, no matter the size of your estate. Listen as Nancy Cogar, an attorney who focuses her practice on the vital areas of Elder Law, Estate and Long Term Care Planning, Trusts, and Probate discusses:

• How taking a proactive and well-considered approach now can save you from making hasty decisions later that can cost you dearly in the long term.

• How trusts work, what assets should or should not be put into a trust, and how a trust can protect your estate.

• Transfers of assets to adult children while still living.

• The difference between healthcare power of attorney and power of attorney.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Nancy A. Cogar, Esq., is a compassionate and dedicated attorney in Chattanooga, Tennessee, focusing her practice on the vital areas of Elder Law, Estate and Long Term Care Planning, Trusts, and Probate Administration. Her experience navigating the care of aging parents underscores her commitment to offering strategies that ease caregiver burdens and secure necessary resources. She is a member of the Tennessee and Chattanooga Bar Associations, the Christian Legal Society, and a Colson Fellow.   You may listen to her podcast Boomer Time with Nancy Cogar or follow her at 

https://instagram.com/nancy.cogar

https://www.youtube.com/@NancyACogar

https://www.facebook.com/chattanoogaelderlawyer

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4dQs75c9H5i0I81dH2wXhv

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #estatelaw #aging #livingwill #estateplanning

The word “divorce” conjures up images of fierce court battles. Yet, in the United States, nearly 95% of divorces are settled out of court. There is a process that will not only save dollars, but has a better chance of preserving family relationships. In this episode, Brenda Bridges, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, mediator, Certified Divorce Coach, and author shares how to navigate one of life’s most difficult transitions with clarity, confidence, and calm. She discusses:

• How a Certified Divorce Coach differs from an attorney.

• How later in life divorcing couples can benefit from a collaborative divorce process. 

• How a divorce financial analyst can help guide decision-making with future needs and impact, as well as tax implications in mind.

Please follow or subscribe to this podcast; leave a rating and review and share with people you know experiencing the pain of divorce. 

Produced by: Whitfield Media Group, Chattanooga, TN

Editing by: Tyler Owens

Email: ⁠[email protected]⁠. We love to hear from you!

Facebook & Instagram @silverdivorcepodcast

Title Sponsor: Center for Sports Medicine and Orthopaedics ⁠www.sportmed.com⁠

Show Sponsor: Medicare Misty ⁠www.medicaremisty.com⁠

About your guest: Brenda Bridges is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, mediator, and Certified Divorce Coach who helps people navigate one of life’s most difficult transitions with clarity, confidence, and calm. She’s the creator of the Informed Mediation™ process and a trained Collaborative Divorce professional, formerly serving as president of the Illinois Association of Collaborative Professionals. Now based in Chattanooga, she’s working to expand access to Collaborative Divorce in the region. She is author of Oh $h*t! I'm Getting Divorced The Guide To Keeping Your Dignity and Dollars. www.bridgingdivorcesolutions.com Facebook & Instagram @bridgingdivorce LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brendabridgingsolutions/

About your host: I’m Lisa McCluskey, MBA, a retired healthcare executive turned podcaster after being blindsided when my 34-year marriage ended. I interview experts on the Silver Divorce Podcast to help people through the traumatic divorce journey. 

This podcast provides education and information and is not intended to replace the advice of a therapist or legal advice.

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4dQs75c9H5i0I81dH2wXhv

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/silver-divorce-podcast/id1746617333

#divorce #graydivorce #divorcerecovery #divorceafter50 #divorcejourney #divorcecare #marriagetrouble #mediation #separation #medicaremisty #centerforsportsmedicine #bridgingdivorce