These are chapters 4 & 5 from my book entitled Simply Irresistible.  Chapter 4 is short, in it I explain the importance of avoiding stating the first thought that enters your mind. Chapter 5 talks about the importance of first understanding social dynamics before trying to make a big impression on a new social group. I explain and how why people are either expelled from groups or blocked entry and how to make adjustments that maximize admittance to virtually any new group.I essentially give you permission and explain why it is acceptable and even wise to be shy in the early stages of entering a new social group. For the all chapters of the book click here.