Sincerely, Sumayah

Where's the line between trusting in Allah and tying your camel? How do you know when you've done enough? What if you miss out on a chance?

This one is for all of the kindhearted, naturally giving, generous people who have become afraid of being used or taken advantage of. You can set boundaries that protect you and allow you to decide when and how you help others. It doesn't make you withholding or selfish, it just makes you human.

This episode is about the fear of being too needy in relationships and how to manage our expectations and emotions.

A lie has a mother & father. Let's examine our role in creating a safe environment in our marriages, families and the community at large.

What happens to a couple when one person makes their partner the center of their universe? Where are the lines between our individual lives and being part of a couple?

It makes it a lot easier for them to show up for you in the right way when you tell them how you want to be loved, and vice versa.

We can both accept things that are outside of our control, and allow ourselves to feel how we do about them happening.

Just like you understand its natural to spend time getting to know someone you just met, you also need to take the time to get to know yourself. It isn't arrogant or selfish to ask questions, reflect or pay attention to your inner world.

A person who gives with the expectation of getting the same in return will feel resentful and empty when they don't get that. When you don't love and respect yourself it can actually drive healthy people away from you. Securely attached, emotionally healthy people aren't usually drawn to people-pleasing or martyr behaviour.

It's really hard to mentor someone who isn't willing to get curious about themselves. People tend to be focused on analyzing others' behaviours and choices. A key qualifier for effective healing and growth is being open and curious about your own inner world.