It's almost Christmas, which means we are almost at the end of our holiday mini-season! Today, you'll hear about why I hate using the word "waiting" when talking about singleness, how to reframe the narrative around "waiting," and why our big feelings actually make us primed to celebrate Christmas. 

Here’s a thing about me—I hate using the word “waiting” in conjunction with singleness. Add in “season,” and it’s barf city for me. 

And yet here we are in Advent—the season of waiting. So, we're going to talk about it.

The holidays can be a wild time. But you're not about that life. You're looking for something to help you decompress and sort through the whirlwind of thoughts and feelings so you can enjoy the holidays on your terms. I made a free guided reflection just for you. Get Single for the Holidays at the link in the episode description or at marybsafrit.com/links. Alright, let's dive into today's episode.


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