In this episode, we tackle the enduring sissy fetish versus transgender debate—a question that has tormented many late-onset transgender individuals: “Is my identity real, or just an outgrowth of a sissy fetish?”  (for more info:   novagirl.net )  We explore the psychological and evolutionary underpinnings of sexuality and identity, examining why the origins of gender feelings are ultimately unprovable and, more importantly, why obsessing over them is counterproductive. Whether your identity began with sexual impulses or not, the key takeaway is this: you deserve happiness and self-respect. Stop burning yourself over unanswerable questions and start living your life.