Laura Doyle discusses the secret to having a passionate, peaceful marriage. Doyle is the founder of Laura Doyle Connect, a coaching company that has helped over 150,000 women, and is the author of First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors: Modern-Day Secrets to Being Desired, Cherished, and Adored for Life. Intimacy and fear, she says, are direct opposites; one is light and one is dark. They cannot coexist. If a wife wants to be in control, she must give up intimacy; but if she wants intimacy, she has to give up control.