The Oxford Dictionary defines contempt as
the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.
And it’s a huge predictor of divorce. So much so that John Gottman wittily named it one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse.
In Gottman’s estimation, and the man has some serious street cred, the state of the marriage always comes back to the emotional climate.
Thus, it is not calamitous events, such as affairs that cause divorce. Rather, an affair is likely to be a symptom of a lack of positive sentiment in the relationship.
“What is Your ‘Wife Style’?” Quiz: https://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/61c0e2c4b3f4200018bf41e0
Free Guide: pages.bethechangeinyourmarriage.com
References: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-6-things-that-predict-divorce/
https://www.gottman.com/blog/r-is-for-repair/
Books:
THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK by Dr. John Gottman
BLINK: THE POWER OF THINKING WITHOUT THINKING by Malcolm Gladwell