A lot of people are fixated on results over the process and skills that actually get them there. Consequently, people force themselves to learn skills and do jobs that they have very little interest in, only because it will get them the result that they so badly want. What I’ve observed is that this ‘result’ often comes from a negative place, it’s usually associated with other people’s opinion of you; comes from a place of insecurity. It’s like a naturally quiet person forcing themself to be loud just so that people don’t think that they’re quiet and boring. We need to embrace our differences, not forcefully try to fit in.