I'm feeling worthless - is that true? I'm believing I'm worthless because a person did something bad to me .. but does his / her action make me worthless? NO. It's not true. Detach the parties step by step and figure out what is the belief that you have about that person and about yourself . Remember, the other party can never make you mad. Only you, yourself choose to be mad. And if you do get mad, ask this question - what was it about me that caused the anger / defensiveness to arise? The answer is - (most people don't realise this) that a part of you believed that (whatever the situation that made you angry) was somewhat true as well.