i'm so mad right now, angry and upset  (after some arguing with older kids.) 

i don't know what to do with these emotions in the moment, so i usually go off running if i can.  intense exercise and sleep helps.

at home with the kids we call anything overwhelming ‘big feelings’ - as in “are you having big feelings?” which could include anger, sadness, whatever.   

i’m still figuring out how to process them myself.   they often get “stuck” in my body or throat - know what i mean?    

in the USA, a lot of people badmouth schools and parents who work to teach kids emotional smarts & how to get in touch with their feelings.  ok you can take anything too far… but rather than “being too soft on kids,”  emotional smarts are the leadership superpower of today and the future.

i just turned 50 and am still figuring this out.   i wish I'd learned more about it when I was younger (yeah i know it was a different world then). 

though - having 10 kids is like being on a super fast catchup / remedial track for emotional smarts.  i’ve come a looooong way with my own emotional guidance system and resilience.  

anytime you’re dealing with fear, uncertainty, doubt, leaps of faith, depression and the like, it’s a possible training ground for a next level of emotional smarts.  so one benefit for entrepreneurs and parents (at a minimum) are extra at-bats in these areas.  

lucky us :)

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