Here on the Good Life Guys Show / Podcast, we talk about social freedom a lot. We both really value being able to be free and spontaneous in the world. To truly be ourselves, unencumbered by anxiety, self-conscious, fear and self-judgement, is an ideal that we both hold in the highest of esteems.

 

For both of us Good Life Guys, social freedom is something that is cultivated gradually over time. And it is cultivated non-linearly. Back-sliding is common. Both of us go through phases of being more or less socially free.

 

There are so many factors involved in social freedom. Each one is worth looking into. Because, at least according to the Good Life Guys, social freedom is life!!

 

Avoid Denial, Admit That You Want It

 

To many people, admitting to social anxiety, or feeling tense in social situations, is shameful. Especially for many men, it seems weak. They want to be macho, and admitting to social anxiety feels like the opposite of that.

 

But in reality, admitting that you feel fear, having the courage to be honest about your anxieties… is a sign of strength.

 

If you engage in denial and pretend, to the world and yourself, that you are totally comfortable socially. But in reality, you merely avoid situations and pretend that you don’t want to connect or reach out or ask for what you want, then you are only hurting yourself.

 

To move forward in this crucial area of life you MUST admit that you feel fear and that you would prefer to feel less fear. You admit that you currently CANNOT be as outgoing and socially free as you would like to be. By admitting this, you clear the way for the important work, and improvement, that needs to happen.

 

Practice

 

Every skill takes practice. And for the vast majority of humans who were not born with outlier levels of extreme extroversion and self-confidence, social freedom is a skill that requires work practice.

 

By admitting that you feel some level of anxiety and that you are less socially few than you would like to be you pave the way to establish a deliberate practice regime.

 

By practicing your social freedom regularly you will certainly get better. This is a Good Life Guys guarantee.