In this Valentine’s Day episode, Heather Hansen O’Neill reframes love as an intentional, courageous practice rather than a passive feeling. She explains how our brains naturally gravitate toward fear, making compassion and connection conscious choices. Through personal stories about miscommunication, assumptions, and stress reactions, she shows how easily fear-driven narratives take over and how powerful it can be to pause, breathe, and choose a different response. Softening, she reminds us, is not weakness. It is the work of choosing love anyway.

Heather shares a heartfelt love letter to humanity that honors imperfect people who keep trying, reflecting, and choosing connection over being right. She also tells a retreat story where vulnerability helped two conflicted team members truly see each other, shifting the entire dynamic. The episode closes with a simple practice: pause, notice what is driving your reaction, and choose love. While our differences are real, our shared humanity is stronger, and love is the upgrade our world needs.

This is the place where real people share real challenges. Where you can find a common bond and uncommon wisdom through their stories. Use tips from the breakthroughs of others to jump start your success. Speaker, author, adventurer, and host Heather Hansen O’Neill takes you on the journey from fear to fire. Today, we talk about choosing love over fear through conscious, courageous softening that deepens connection, rewrites assumptions, and honors our shared humanity.

Heather is the host of the From Fear to Fire podcast as well as a best-selling author, igniter of inner flame, and an international keynote speaker and change strategist. Her specialty is in helping individuals and organizations consciously transform their behaviors for peak performance.

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