This is a small SOS for anyone who becomes the emotional peacekeeper in their family at Christmas. If you absorb the tension in the room, manage everyone’s moods or feel responsible for the atmosphere, this episode offers a few gentle anchors to help you stay more centred.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why peacekeeping often feels like “safety” to our nervous system
• Choosing one thing you’re not responsible for this year
• The power of tiny, quiet breaks away from the room
• Asking: “Is this my job?” – and letting yourself put some of it down
  

Links & resources:

• A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset Audio
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  Re-Centre: A New Year Gathering

If you love Christmas in theory – the lights, the cosy moments, the magic – but find yourself completely burnt out trying to make it perfect for everyone else, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to gently scale back, choose what really matters, and let some things go.

In this episode, we explore:

• How “creating magic” quietly becomes a full-time invisible job
• Choosing your “Magic Big Three” – and letting the rest be optional
• How to soften all-or-nothing thinking around traditions
• Why magic is about warmth and presence, not perfection

Links & resources:

Free A Centred Christmas workbook + reset audio
Re-Centre: A New Year Gathering (gentle New Year reset)

You’ve thought ahead, bought thoughtful gifts, carried the mental load and made the moments… and then the effort doesn’t seem to come back to you. In this episode, we talk about the quiet sting of feeling unappreciated at Christmas and how to tend to yourself when the emotional labour feels very one-sided.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why it hurts so much when your effort isn’t reciprocated
• How Christmas highlights long-standing patterns of emotional labour
• Naming what you wish someone would do for you (without shame)
• Matching expectations to reality – and why that’s an act of self-protection
• One small way you can give to yourself this season
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If your December is packed with events, gatherings, school things, work drinks and favours – and you feel guilty even thinking about saying no – this episode is a soft invitation to breathe. We’ll explore how to gently reclaim a bit of space, even if you’re not ready for big boundaries yet.In this episode, we explore:

• Why December is “peak people-pleasing season”
  
• How to gently sort your commitments into must / maybe / no

• One small, safe “no” you can practice without guilt
  
• Why buffer days are essential for your nervous system
  
• The simple question: “Would I choose this if guilt wasn’t involved?”

Links & resources:

• ⁠A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset Audio⁠
• ⁠Re-Centre: A New Year Gathering (gentle January reset)⁠

If hosting turns you into a frazzled, snappy, over-tidying version of yourself, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. We’ll talk about why hosting can be so activating for recovering people-pleasers, how childhood messages about “a good home” show up, and how to create warmth and welcome without sacrificing your well-being.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why hosting so often triggers perfectionism, panic-cleaning and performance
• The difference between welcoming people in and performing for them
• A simple “good enough” approach to preparing your space
• Tiny acts of hospitality that come from love, not pressure
• Letting something stay imperfect on purpose (as a quiet act of rebellion)

Links & resources:

• A Centred Christmas Reflection Workbook + Reset Audio
• Re-Centre: A New Year Gathering (gentle January reset)

If your bank account is already feeling the strain and it’s only early December (but you just CAN'T scale it back), this episode is for you. We’ll unpack why overspending at Christmas is often less about money and more about people-pleasing, perfectionism and wanting everyone to feel loved - and how to gently start shifting that, without shame.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why overspending at Christmas is usually an emotional/nervous-system strategy, not a budgeting failure
• The difference between a “pressure gift” and a “good enough gift”
• How to pause before buying without feeling deprived
• Tiny ways to scale back that still feel generous and thoughtful
• Why simplifying your giving is actually an act of self-trust
  

Links & resources:

In this episode, I chat about how going inward when we have a strong reaction to something is key, and why these situations are such a gift in our people-pleasing recovery.

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