Dr. Murray Bowen taught that we each have solid self, that principled center of beliefs and values which is developed from within and isn’t able to be changed by other people. Then there’s pseudo self, usually developed in relationship to other people and often up for exchange in order to belong. How much pseudo self and how much solid self are you operating with? And can you increase your solid self and in the process improve your relationships and maybe even your family or workplace? I think so!