Alright, let's get real. If you're the type of woman who would rather do literally everything yourself than ask for help (even when you're two seconds from burnout), this episode was made for you.

In this solo drop-in, Rachele Kehler gets radically honest about the root causes of hyper-independence and why so many women, especially the ambitious, intuitive, cycle-breaking kind, struggle to ask for what they need. Spoiler alert: it's not because you're bad at communicating. It's because your nervous system is trying to protect you from getting hurt... again.

This episode unpacks the connection between childhood emotional neglect, the loss of autonomy and agency, and the way those old wounds shape how we show up in our relationships, businesses, and even self-care routines. Rachele also introduces her upcoming workshop, designed to help you express your needs without guilt, shutdowns, or passive-aggressive wishful thinking.

✨ Key Takeaways:

• High-Independence is often a trauma response, not a badge of honour.
• You can be a boss woman and still learn to receive support (without spiralling).
• ADHD, people-pleasing, and control issues are often rooted in childhood loss of agency.
• Communicating your needs can feel terrifying—but it’s a skill you can absolutely learn.
• If you want relationships that feel supportive instead of soul-sucking, it starts with how you ask.

💬 3 Cheeky, Soul-Stirring Quotes:

“Turns out being a control freak isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival strategy in cute shoes.”“You didn’t stop asking for help because you’re strong. You stopped because no one was listening.”“The highly independent woman will micromanage her own nervous system before letting someone else cook her dinner.”

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Workshop: The Highly Independent Woman’s Guide to Asking for What She Needs – Live end of April 27
• Program: The Self-Expressed Woman – For women ready to stop shrinking and start receiving
• Support Community: SHE.FOR.WE – For soul-led women in business who are done doing it all alone

💌 Want to connect?

• Email Rachele: [email protected]
• Instagram: @womansalignmentcoach
• website: www.rachelekehler.com