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Some people enter your life like a flash of lightning—bright, unforgettable, and gone just as quickly. But not without leaving something behind.
In this deeply personal and revealing episode, I open up about my experience with Ms. 313—a woman who captured my attention and sparked a wave of emotions during one of the most fragile seasons of my life: the aftermath of my 2016 divorce. I was wounded, questioning everything I thought I knew about love, trust, and myself. Then came this unexpected connection. She was bold, beautiful, full of life—and in many ways, exactly what I thought I needed at the time.
Our journey was passionate and electric, filled with long talks, laughter, intense moments of chemistry, and fleeting glimpses of what felt like possibility. But underneath that fire was a foundation that could not hold. I was still grieving. Still rebuilding. Still learning how to exist outside of a marriage that had shaped much of my identity. And as it turned out, she was navigating her own unspoken wounds too—ones she never fully acknowledged.
Some Bridges Aren’t for Accountability is a raw reflection on what happens when two unhealed souls try to build something real on top of unresolved pain. It’s about how easy it is to confuse distraction with destiny, and how dangerous it can be to expect someone else to carry what you haven’t yet unpacked yourself.
What I hoped would be a second chance at love became a crash course in emotional accountability—something neither of us were truly prepared to offer. There were red flags I ignored, uncomfortable truths I avoided, and hard questions I didn’t yet know how to ask. And when things fell apart, it wasn’t with clarity or conversation—it ended with silence, distance, and the realization that just because someone arrives after your heartbreak doesn’t mean they’re the one meant to help you heal it.
This episode is for anyone who has ever tried to love while still bleeding. It’s for those who found themselves attached to someone who felt like a remedy, only to discover they were a reflection of what still needed healing. And it’s a reminder that not every bridge is meant to lead to forever—some are simply built to show you what you must face within.
Join me as I walk through this bittersweet memory, unpack the lessons I learned the hard way, and share why it’s not only okay—but necessary—to press pause on love until your soul has had time to breathe, to reflect, and to truly heal.
Because love can’t do the work that only healing was meant to do.
By Bryan Thomas5
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Some people enter your life like a flash of lightning—bright, unforgettable, and gone just as quickly. But not without leaving something behind.
In this deeply personal and revealing episode, I open up about my experience with Ms. 313—a woman who captured my attention and sparked a wave of emotions during one of the most fragile seasons of my life: the aftermath of my 2016 divorce. I was wounded, questioning everything I thought I knew about love, trust, and myself. Then came this unexpected connection. She was bold, beautiful, full of life—and in many ways, exactly what I thought I needed at the time.
Our journey was passionate and electric, filled with long talks, laughter, intense moments of chemistry, and fleeting glimpses of what felt like possibility. But underneath that fire was a foundation that could not hold. I was still grieving. Still rebuilding. Still learning how to exist outside of a marriage that had shaped much of my identity. And as it turned out, she was navigating her own unspoken wounds too—ones she never fully acknowledged.
Some Bridges Aren’t for Accountability is a raw reflection on what happens when two unhealed souls try to build something real on top of unresolved pain. It’s about how easy it is to confuse distraction with destiny, and how dangerous it can be to expect someone else to carry what you haven’t yet unpacked yourself.
What I hoped would be a second chance at love became a crash course in emotional accountability—something neither of us were truly prepared to offer. There were red flags I ignored, uncomfortable truths I avoided, and hard questions I didn’t yet know how to ask. And when things fell apart, it wasn’t with clarity or conversation—it ended with silence, distance, and the realization that just because someone arrives after your heartbreak doesn’t mean they’re the one meant to help you heal it.
This episode is for anyone who has ever tried to love while still bleeding. It’s for those who found themselves attached to someone who felt like a remedy, only to discover they were a reflection of what still needed healing. And it’s a reminder that not every bridge is meant to lead to forever—some are simply built to show you what you must face within.
Join me as I walk through this bittersweet memory, unpack the lessons I learned the hard way, and share why it’s not only okay—but necessary—to press pause on love until your soul has had time to breathe, to reflect, and to truly heal.
Because love can’t do the work that only healing was meant to do.