Maryellen covers the big S: sorry. She talks about the difference between saying sorry and apologizing, and gives 3 dos and 3 don'ts for a good apology.Have you ever heard people say “Sorry not sorry” or an insincere sorry? Well, join Maryellen’s crash course on diving into the word sorry and where sorry came from and distinguishing sorry vs. apologize. As sorry has been used by everyone of us, including celebrities, influencers, politicians, literally EVERYONE, over the past years it’s lost its sentimental meaning and has turned into a self empowerment or sarcastic word such as Demi Lovato singing her song “Sorry Not Sorry” using the word sorry as an indication of “sorry not sorry for who I am” or celebrities publicly saying sorry but they don’t mean it. So then what is the solution of saying sorry and really meaning it? You use the word “apologize” and apologizing and saying sorry are to completely opposite actions and hold different sentimental value. Now here are the 3 Dos and 3 Don’ts of apologizes: 

1. DON’T blame the other person when you are apologizing, aka be responsible for your actions and hold yourself accountable. 

2. DON’T explain your past, the point is to apologize and move forward with new behaviors and attitudes. 

3. DON’T apologize if you don’t mean it, it’s as simple as that. 

Now for the Dos: 

1. DO thank the other person for understanding. 

2. DO be sincere as the reason you’re apologizing is to show you’re regretful of your actions. 

3. DO (if you’re feeling nice) give apology gifts as this is a gesture to show your assurance in changing your behavior 

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Maryellen Dance is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based out of upstate New York. She focuses on providing skills using cognitive behavioral therapy, often using mindfulness techniques that are vital to personal growth. With a passion for psychology and propensity to ask questions, Maryellen entered this field to educate, learn and share what it means to be “Okay-ish.”