Soul Kink Therapy

Today I have on Beth Mongold, a sex and intimacy coach based in Boulder and a superstar in my world, with expertise in conscious kink.

Beth spent decades in yoga, tantra and meditation, trying to be all peace and light and love, and still felt like something was missing. After her divorce she started exploring kink, which terrified her. Then she realized she'd been trying to get rid of the darker, more intense parts of herself all along.

We talk about the layers of conditioning that teach us what we're allowed to be, and what happens to the parts that go into the shadow. We get into how desire, fear and shame live together in your body, why the first step is just permission to feel, and why numbness is actually a feeling. We cover calling a safe word on your own inner critic, safe words for your whole life, why so many men are scared of their own desire right now, and internal consent. And I ask every man listening: do you feel like you need your wife's permission to explore yourself?

Your patterns are your kinks.

✦ BOOK AN INITIATION SESSION

Anyone can book an initiation session with me. It's a virtual session where we get to know each other and start the work.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/services/

✦ OUTRAGEOUSLY HER

A four-month cohort for crossdressers and men exploring their gender.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/outrageously-her/

✦ WORK WITH BETH

Beth works with men and couples, including men going through divorce, and offers a free consultation.

→ https://www.eroticsenses.co/

✦ THE LIGHT DARK INSTITUTE

Introductory workshops and the immersive Light Dark experience.

→ https://www.lightdarkinstitute.com/

📖 Mentioned in this episode

Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott

⏱ CHAPTERS

00:00 Meet Beth Mongold

00:41 Beth's path into kink

02:39 Theater and the full range of being human

03:09 The parts we're taught to hide

05:05 Your worst nightmare of who you are

06:10 Why hiding it makes the shame worse

07:46 Associative or dissociative

08:37 The box in the closet

09:17 Feel the desire in your body

10:48 How to slow down with a desire

11:51 Bruce Banner and the Hulk

12:26 The Light Dark Institute

15:18 My own three-day experience

15:59 Conscious kink vs. kink

17:25 Pleasure as a portal

18:12 Sexuality as wellness

19:23 Desire doesn't mean action

20:18 Permission to feel

21:01 My healer is a sadist

21:55 What the deep work taught Beth

23:10 A safe word for your inner critic

24:47 Safe words in everyday life

26:15 For men afraid to explore their dom

28:53 Make them wait

30:16 Do you need all this work first?

33:18 A night of primal play

34:34 It all comes back to play

35:02 Teaching men to play again

36:17 A generation of men afraid of desire

37:41 Owning your own boundaries

41:07 Unwiring the fear of men

42:25 Existential Kink and dating

43:55 Your patterns are your kinks

44:27 My parents' dynamic

46:08 Do you need your wife's permission?

46:52 Internal consent

47:41 The pressure on men's sexuality

50:17 When you slow down and feel nothing

51:59 Numbness is a feeling

53:19 Why you can't do it alone

53:56 Why work with a professional

55:35 The taboo around dominatrices

56:18 Where to find Beth

#ConsciousKink #ShadowWork #Intimacy

Today we're talking about betrayal, breakups, the reveal, and how to come back from it.

Guiding us through this obstacle course of death and rebirth is the one and only Clayton Olson, a couples coach who specializes in neuro-linguistic programming and supports people through divorce, breakups and the moments right before them.

So many crossdressers are having an affair with themselves.

A little box under the bed, a partner who doesn't ask, a life lived just below the surface where you come up for a sip of authenticity and go back down. Clayton puts it plainly.

A relationship is a living organism, and if it isn't growing in depth and intimacy, it's dying.

We get into the double life and what it costs your relationship, why the parents' connection has to come first, what NLP actually is, and a perceptual positions exercise for meeting the part of you that carries the shame

(I act it out with chairs).

Then we go to the edge: what it means for a relationship to die, why some people aren't done flapping, the universe that starts with a whisper, bitterness after she leaves, and Man's Search for Meaning.

If you feel like the walls of reality are crumbling, where are your people?

✦ OUTRAGEOUSLY HERA four-month cohort for crossdressers. Half the people in my current cohort don't have anyone in their life they can talk to about this, not even their wives. Two hours every other week, they show up and get to be their full selves.→ https://www.soulkink.com/outrageously-her/

✦ BOOK AN INITIATION SESSION→ https://www.soulkink.com/services/

✦ FIND CLAYTONWebsite: https://claytonolsoncoaching.comYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@claytonolsoncoaching

I recently trained with another dominatrix, and she said something that completely blew my mind. A dominant is in devotion to their own pleasure, and being in their own pleasure is how they serve their submissive.

So what if you're a man who's spent his entire life trying to serve everyone else, and has no idea what his own pleasure is?

This is the third episode in my series on people pleasing nice guys. In the first one we talked about covert contracts, where people pleasing comes from, and what it looks like to start recovering. In the second, we talked about why consciously owning your desire to surrender is so important. Today I'm telling you why I'm such a huge advocate for exploring your dominance, and how it can be a gorgeous training ground for finding your own spine.

We get into the difference between being dominant and being domineering, why control feels like a burden when nobody's grateful, and the big question: what do you need in return for all the giving you do? I give you trailheads for finding your inner dom, the three ways your people pleaser sneaks into your dominance, why doms need aftercare too, and a very funny story about my partner's first lessons.

✦ MEET YOUR INNER DOM (ONLINE COURSE)

The most affordable and easiest place to start. I go through everything we talked about today in depth, including the Wheel of Consent, plus exercises you can do on your own and with your partner. Go at your own pace.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/meet-your-inner-dom-online-course/

📖 Mentioned in this episodeBetty Martin's Wheel of Consent (my video) → https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OsAWZhOeJuo

⏱ CHAPTERS

00:00 A dominant is in devotion to their own pleasure

01:06 Part 3: why I'm an advocate for exploring your dominance

02:00 This is not about performing

02:26 You're never really playing a part

03:19 Full access to your toolkit

03:59 Finding your spine: a body exercise

06:37 What a dom actually is

07:04 Dominant vs. domineering

07:58 Terrified of being dominant?

09:07 When you're in control all day

10:18 The Wheel of Consent

10:55 What do you need in return?

11:40 Why exploring your dom is so healing

12:28 For nice guys still finding their spine

13:21 If you want to serve, love yourself

13:48 Feedback from your partner

14:25 The dominant is actually serving

14:57 Leading like a partner dance

15:28 Consent culture vs. attuned culture

16:13 Your pleasure is the blueprint

16:36 The service dom

17:55 Trailheads to your inner dom

18:16 Trailhead 1: the winning walk

20:19 The inspection exercise

22:16 What if your partner is the dominant one?

23:33 Trailhead 2: borrow your road rage

24:52 When guilt shows up

26:43 Set a timer

27:42 Stay away from real wounds

29:12 You will mess up

30:03 Safe words, from the dom side

31:40 Safe words are theirs, attunement is yours

32:17 Your pleaser comes along for the ride

33:12 My partner's first lessons

34:53 People pleasing in a costume

35:30 Collapsing after feedback

36:57 How to give and receive feedback

38:40 The shape of a scene

40:23 Doms need aftercare too

41:13 Work with me

43:24 Coming up: my partner's story

44:02 Try this week

I asked a client if he wanted to do a scene with me. He immediately said yes, and then his whole body clenched up. I asked again, are you sure, are you really really sure? Yes, let's do it. Everything about him was screaming no, and I still went ahead with it. Spoiler alert, it sucked.

Because if I can't trust your no, I can't trust your yes.

In the last episode I told you I hate people pleasing nice guys, and that most of my clients happen to be people pleasing nice guys who I absolutely adore. Today we're building on that. I want to talk about why I see people pleasing so much in men who long to surrender, and why healing those wounds is crucial if you want to fully release into the healthy, euphoric bliss of it.

We get into why serving feels so good, the three phases I move through when a pleaser comes to work with me, and why I want every pleaser to explore taking charge. I walk you through what a healthy experience looks like and what a frenzied one looks like, then tell you the whole story of the client who finally looked me in the eye and said no. Plus a third practice that might make your skin crawl, and Thomas, who found his spine in Hebrew.

✦ BOOK AN INITIATION SESSION

I'm currently taking clients. If you're excited to work with me in person but you don't live in Boulder, I offer full-day and multi-day intensives for out-of-town clients.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/services/

✦ BE A GUEST ON SOUL KINK THERAPY

Kinky and curious? Apply to be a guest and get a free therapeutic session with me, a $300 value. Experts whose work touches the therapeutic side of kink, and partners trying to understand their partner's kinks, are welcome too. I only want guests who are a full-body yes.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/podcast

📖 Mentioned in this episode

Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott

Part 1: Episode 35 → [E35 LINK]

Hear Thomas tell it himself: "Coming Out Kinky: Finding Freedom After Divorce" → [THOMAS EPISODE LINK]

⏱ CHAPTERS

00:00 He said yes. His body said no.

01:13 Part 2: people pleasing and surrender

02:12 Two different journeys

03:36 Why serving feels so good

04:45 "I can prove men aren't bad"

05:34 Where kink comes from

06:18 When you share your desire and get the ick

07:27 The three phases of the work

08:52 Why every pleaser should explore taking charge

11:02 What a healthy experience looks like

12:21 "Whatever you want, I want" isn't negotiation

12:52 Selfish is your medicine

13:20 The feelings chart

14:25 Safe words: yellow isn't failure

15:39 Feeding off each other

16:08 Learning to receive care

16:36 The frenzied people pleaser

17:17 Mark's story

20:20 What happened to me afterwards

21:14 "I can't trust you"

22:47 His first no

23:51 When you say no, I feel closer to you

24:15 Existential Kink: the juice in martyrdom

25:10 Kink purifies your pleasing

25:40 Don't make kink a better target for your pleasing

26:00 Practices 1 and 2: pause, then shape your yes

26:45 Practice 3: five minutes of no

28:50 Thomas's story

31:08 The plot twist

32:10 "Do it in Hebrew"

34:10 All of your parts are welcome

34:59 Work with me: sessions and intensives

35:49 Be a guest on the show

#PeoplePleasing #NiceGuySyndrome #Boundaries

I hate people pleasing nice guys. And most of my clients are people pleasing nice guys, and I deeply love them. So what's the difference between the nice guy who makes me want to scream and the one I'll do anything to help?

In this episode I tell you about the man who stopped me at an event, looked deep into my eyes and told me "you are so worthy," and why everything in me wanted to run. We get into what Robert Glover calls covert contracts: the deals you make without saying them out loud. I'll be helpful, I'll never cause trouble, and in return you'll love me and meet my needs. Nobody signed your contract. So nobody pays up, and you end up resentful and lonely.

I also get honest about why people pleasers activate me so much (it's my mom), where this pattern comes from, and what recovery actually looks like. Two things you can try this week, plus the gold medal answer every people pleaser needs to learn.

If any of my questions made your stomach drop, I'm probably talking to you.

✦ BOOK AN INITIATION SESSION

If you're tired of losing yourself and you're ready to meet your pattern, come work with me. I see people virtually and in person.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/services/

✦ BE A GUEST ON SOUL KINK THERAPY

Kinky and curious? A practitioner in this world? A partner trying to understand your partner's kink? I want to hear from you. Only full, grounded yeses.

→ https://www.soulkink.com/podcast

📖 Mentioned in this episode

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover (2003)

⏱ CHAPTERS

00:00 I hate people pleasing nice guys

00:45 Choice vs. fear: same behavior, different engine

01:30 People pleasing vs. the nice guy

02:31 Are you a people pleaser? Notice your body

04:07 The man who told me "you are so worthy"

07:14 Covert contracts (No More Mr. Nice Guy)

08:45 You're taking away other people's agency

10:16 It hurts you more than anyone

11:28 Why people pleasing is so lonely

12:13 We don't see a wound, we see a gentleman

13:14 Why people pleasers activate me

14:35 My mom is a people pleaser

17:21 Where the pattern comes from

18:08 You were a genius surviving your childhood

18:52 What recovery actually looks like

20:05 You made a mistake. You are not the mistake.

20:57 How to apologize without collapsing

22:20 Happy wife, happy life

23:22 Try this week #1: pause before you say yes

25:03 Try this week #2: shape your yes

26:07 The gold medal answer

27:47 Why my client list is full of nice guys

30:41 Where to start

32:35 Next episode: people pleasing and submissive men

33:06 Be a guest on the show

Am I addicted to crossdressing? To porn? To latex? To kink?If you’ve ever purged the clothes, the toys, the panties — swore you were done — then bought it all back weeks later… this episode is about that cycle.This is not a yes-or-no diagnosis. Emily Letts gives you a framework you can actually use:Anything can be associative or dissociative.The same behavior can pull you deeper into your life — or help you leave it.In Part 1 of this two-part episode, Emily talks about:• The binge-purge cycle around dressing, porn, and kink• Why “is this bad?” is the wrong question• How attachment and isolation sit underneath “addiction”• Her dad’s story as a 25-year police officer who came home and numbed out• The question: is there one person, not your spouse, who fully knows you?• Why kink often becomes the trailhead when therapy never felt safe• A resource list vs a dissociative list you can make today• Why shame is what keeps the purge going• Why crossdressing is not inherently the problem — your relationship to it isWork with Emily:https://www.soulkink.com/Framework inspired by teacher Katie Asmus (somatic / nature-based therapy).This episode is educational, not clinical diagnosis or medical advice.TIMESTAMPS0:00 – Am I addicted? The purge1:45 – Welcome to Soul Kink Therapy2:07 – Associative vs dissociative3:00 – Same behavior, different relationship4:26 – Into your life, or out of it?4:43 – A family lineage of addiction5:36 – Dad’s story: 25 years as a cop7:05 – The man no one fully knows7:46 – Is there one person (not your spouse) who knows you?8:27 – Numbing, TV, and first-responder silence9:24 – What this costs your family10:15 – Why kink becomes the trailhead11:03 – You are a full person11:37 – Not personality. Nervous system.12:49 – Addiction and attachment13:03 – Attachment theory and co-regulation17:02 – Secure vs insecure attachment18:00 – Why some men can only rest alone22:27 – “I’m not going to live a numbed-out life”23:34 – Getting “addicted” to self-inquiry24:21 – If you dress to escape… from what?25:00 – Life isn’t something you’re meant to run from26:43 – Everyone is addicted to something26:56 – Emily’s social media case study28:50 – Stop asking “am I an addict?”29:58 – Make a resource list34:15 – How to use the list when you want to escape35:12 – Make a dissociative list37:34 – Crossdressing is not inherently bad38:39 – It may be giving you nutrients you need39:40 – Be gentle with yourself40:35 – What’s coming in Part 241:15 – If this is overwhelming, get support41:43 – Initiation call + close#Crossdressing #BingePurge #Kink Website:https://www.soulkink.com/

Picture it: you're dressed, you feel amazing, you scheduled this — and the second you walk into the room, your body slams shut. Stomach swirling, chest tight, a voice screaming "I don't want to do this."If you've ever deeply wanted intimacy and then frozen the moment it arrived, this episode is for you.Emily gets radically honest about her own version of this — as a sexuality educator who, just six months ago, shut down completely walking into a scheduled intimacy session with her partner. No acute trauma to explain it. Just a war between parts. This episode is the map she wishes she'd had.Using Internal Family Systems (parts work), Emily breaks down why "I want it but my body says no" happens — and the exact process for working through it.In this episode:▸ A quick, non-clinical intro to parts work: protectors, exiles, and the calm Self underneath▸ Meet Cruella — the protector built by "the modern woman" archetype (via her teacher Om Rupani), who loved being sexy for status but shut down real vulnerability▸ Meet nymph and Sid — the arousal parts that were waiting underneath once Cruella softened▸ Why external consent without internal consent leads to the shutdown▸ Patricia Rich's Self-Led Sexuality and the "F" sequence: Find, Focus, Flesh out, Feel toward, Befriend, Fears▸ Why kinky, crossdressing, and non-monogamous folks have MORE internal negotiation to do — and why that's not a flaw▸ Your crossdressing part isn't a contradiction to fix — it needs recognition, not correction▸ A closing thank-you to the protector that kept her safe all alongThis is the work Emily is known for. If it lands, it can change your relationship with your own arousal.🌀 With gratitude to Om Rupani (the "modern woman" archetype) and Patricia Rich (Self-Led Sexuality), whose frameworks shape this episode. Internal Family Systems was developed by Richard Schwartz.Chapters:0:00 – "My body shut down": the contradiction2:41 – Welcome to Soul Kink Therapy3:09 – Parts work 101: protectors, exiles, and the Self6:49 – Back to the ceremony room: desire meets shutdown8:28 – The part that changed everything8:51 – "The modern woman": sexy as a weapon for status10:08 – Meet Cruella, the protector12:50 – Meet nymph: the arousal underneath14:03 – Meet Sid: the giggly sadist15:21 – A framework you can use yourself16:12 – Consent culture and its blind spot18:14 – External consent vs internal consent18:45 – The F sequence: Find, Focus, Flesh out, Feel toward, Befriend, Fears24:25 – Why our sexual relationship is so strong now25:22 – For kinksters, crossdressers, and the non-monogamous28:39 – Where to get support29:34 – A thank-you to CruellaTopics in this episode:• Desire discrepancy and sexual shutdown• Internal Family Systems (parts work) for sexuality• Self-Led Sexuality (Patricia Rich)• The "modern woman" archetype (Om Rupani)• Internal consent vs external consent• Crossdressing and kink as parts, not problems• How to work with sexual anxiety and freeze#sextherapy #partswork #internalfamilysystemsWebsite:https://www.soulkink.com

Gender expansive. Dual gender. Cross-dressing as action, not identity.In this episode of Soul Kink Therapy, Emily sits down with Savannah Hauk — TEDx speaker, author, podcaster, and self-described gender expansive dual-gender person — for a deep, honest conversation about living both Chuck and Savannah.They unpack:• Why Savannah rarely uses the word “cross-dresser” anymore• The difference between the action of dressing and the root of identity• Growing up secretive in a conservative family and finding community in 90s New York• The daily practice (and exposure therapy) of being out in public• How femininity integrates into everyday life — empathy, emotion, and presence• The sensory and erotic journey of dressing and how it evolves with maturity• Navigating relationships when one partner is dual gender• Why visibility still matters (and feels harder) in 2026• Practical advice for anyone beginning to explore gender expansivenessSavannah is thoughtful, grounded, and generous with her story. This is one of those conversations that gives language to people who have been searching for it.If this episode resonated, share it with someone who might need the language.Subscribe for more conversations like this.0:00 – Intro & Welcome0:50 – Why “cross-dresser” no longer fits3:00 – Dual gender explained (Savannah + Chuck)4:10 – Why men in women’s clothes still shocks society7:10 – Savannah’s journey: age 6 to New York clubs9:10 – The daily practice of being out11:00 – Trauma, exposure, and the need for community13:00 – Coming out as a second puberty16:30 – Relating to men who don’t access their feminine19:40 – Host reflection: pity vs. compassion24:00 – Sensory power of clothing & the body27:30 – Sexuality, stigma & “it’s not just sexual”31:30 – Savannah’s erotic journey & unlearning labels35:20 – Recent relationship & integrating both sides37:40 – Holding dual gender in partnership42:10 – “A house is still a closet”45:00 – Quiet advocacy & reaching one person46:20 – Ideal relationship with a dual-gender partner48:30 – Societal backsliding & why visibility matters more50:40 – Who inspires Savannah’s advocacy51:40 – Advice for those beginning to explore54:10 – Where to find Savannah + closingWebsite:https://www.soulkink.com/

Georgia Ritchie is back — and this time, 48 hours before her wife gives birth to their third child, she sits down with Emily to talk about what it actually takes to be seen publicly as a crossdresser without losing yourself in the process.Georgia has been online for 16 years. She started at 21, hiding, convinced she was "a freak" and the only one. What followed was a long, honest journey through everything the internet does to a person who just wants to be witnessed: the first taste of validation, the chase for a "higher high," the gamification of self-worth, and the people who show up wanting to take advantage of how badly you want to belong.This is one of the most useful conversations we've had for anyone stepping into public crossdressing — whether that's a first photo, a first Instagram, or a first modeling shoot.In this episode:▸ Raising kids as a crossdressing dad — "you're allowed to be who you want to be"▸ Why Georgia thought she was the only one (and what changed)▸ The validation spiral and the gamification of self-worth▸ "Creepiness is just unknown desire" — spotting who's really safe online▸ How the shame of hiding stole years of her artistry▸ Taking ownership: why claiming this part of you lets it finally grow▸ Finding your muses, your genre, and your look▸ Wigs, lace fronts, and makeup — practical tips from years of practice▸ How Georgia got taken advantage of as a model — and how to spot a fair energy exchangeGeorgia is proof that this can be integrated into a whole, joyful life — as a husband, a father, an artist, and a crossdresser.💜 Follow Georgia: Instagram @MissGeorgiaRitchie👶 And a huge shout-out to Georgia's wife Tori — the real superhero of this episode.Chapters:0:00 – Welcome back, Georgia — and a baby in 48 hours1:49 – Raising kids and gender: "you're allowed to be who you want"4:30 – Introducing a boy to your world as a crossdressing dad11:19 – Why crossdressers want to be seen — and the risk that comes with it12:29 – "I thought I was the only one. I thought I was a freak."16:05 – The first taste of validation and chasing the higher high20:53 – Associative vs dissociative: is this feeding you or an escape?24:36 – The gamification of self-worth26:00 – Secretly hoping to be found out34:36 – "Creepiness is just unknown desire"37:00 – How to start being seen with integrity38:50 – Find your muses, find your genre41:19 – "I wasted my youth to shame"42:18 – Taking ownership: how claiming it lets it grow46:25 – Wigs, lace fronts, and finding your look51:23 – The England shoot: feeling like a movie star57:00 – "I don't care how big my platform gets anymore"59:18 – The year offline that changed everything1:00:35 – Community, Outrageously Her, and fair energy exchange1:03:00 – Being taken advantage of as a model1:07:30 – Gratitude, Tori, and living as a whole person—Topics in this episode:• Coming out publicly as a crossdresser• Crossdressing and parenting / raising kids• Building an online platform safely• The psychology of validation and social media• Crossdresser modeling and being taken advantage of• Makeup, wigs, and feminization tips• Taking ownership of your crossdressing as art• Outrageously Her — 4-month cohort for men exploring their feminine#crossdresser #crossdressing #crossdressingdadWebsite:https://www.soulkink.com

There are two kinds of people in this world: people with "fuck you" energy, and people with "fuck me" energy. And both of them are a trap.In this solo episode, I lay out a framework I learned from the Light Dark Institute that I talk about more than almost anything else in my life — because once you see it, you can't unsee it. You'll start categorising everyone you meet. It's like waking up from the matrix."Fuck you" energy: I'd rather give up connection than give up my own power. The armor, the island, the high-status loneliness."Fuck me" energy: I'd rather give up my own power than lose connection. The shrinking, the self-erasure, the pedestals.The antidote to both? "I fucking love myself, AND I fucking love you." Strong spine, open heart.Then I take this somewhere most people never do — into dominance and submission. Because these two energies show up in the bedroom, in kink, in the way we fantasise, in ways most people completely misunderstand:▸ Why "fuck me" people chase submission as an escape from self-loathing (I call them "frenzied submissives")▸ Why "fuck you" people fantasise about being forced or taken advantage of (the "reluctant submissive" and the brat)▸ What forced feminization is really about for so many crossdressers▸ Why the kink that heals you eventually loses its charge — and why that's a good thing▸ The two-thrones model of dominance and submission at its most spiritualI also share my own story — a reformed "fuck you" energy who had to learn that only fragile things need armor.This one's personal. Let's get into it.🌀 With gratitude to the Light Dark Institute and to John Wineland, whose "strong spine, open heart" language runs through this episode.Chapters:0:00 – Two kinds of people: the two energies0:56 – Welcome to Soul Kink Therapy1:17 – "Fuck you" energy explained1:52 – "Fuck me" energy explained2:52 – Why both energies are a trap3:49 – The antidote: strong spine, open heart5:56 – My story: a reformed "fuck you" energy7:42 – "I won. I was high-status. And I was so lonely."10:11 – "Fuck me" energy and the shadow of generosity11:19 – Applying this to dominance and submission13:55 – Frenzied submissives: chasing relief from self-loathing16:05 – Reluctant submissives, being "forced," and the brat20:01 – What forced feminization is really about20:45 – Why the kink that heals you loses its charge21:37 – Two thrones: the most epic love concept24:26 – A closing blessing—Topics in this episode:• Fuck you energy vs fuck me energy (Light Dark Institute framework)• Avoidant and anxious attachment in relationships• Strong spine, open heart (John Wineland)• Dominance and submission psychology• Why people fantasize about being forced (consensual non-consent)• The brat archetype in kink• Forced feminization and crossdressing shame• How kink heals the wound that made it hot• Self-love as the antidote to both energies#dominatrix #dominanceandsubmission #kinkWebsite:https://www.soulkink.com