Soul Shift Studio

Have you ever thought about the identities you carry—and how they might be shaping your life without you even realizing it?

Growing up in a Chinese immigrant family, being called a “good daughter” was a badge of honor. Part of me loved the recognition. But another part of me resented it, something I didn't even want to admit to myself.

In this episode, I reflect on the expectations we unconsciously attach to our identities, how they can quietly limit what we believe is possible, and what began to change when I allowed myself to question them.

Sometimes, the roles we carry aren't the problem. It's the rules we've come to believe we must follow to fulfill them.

It leaves me wondering:

What expectations might I be living by today without even recognizing them?

And what possibilities might I be closing off before I've even given myself a chance to explore them?

Perhaps we can hold our identities a little more lightly, allowing room for more of who we are.

If there's an identity you've been carrying that you're beginning to question, or a role you've never really stopped to examine, I'd love to hear your story. Reach me at [email protected].

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May you give yourself and the people around you room to be more than any one title can describe.

When someone misunderstands our intentions, it's natural to want to explain ourselves. To be seen. To have them recognize that perhaps they could have handled things differently.

But what happens when our peace depends on whether they understand?

This week's reflection grew out of a question someone brought to me about a difficult situation at work. As we explored it together, I found myself returning to something I've been practicing in my own life: recognizing what is within my control, what isn't, and how to remain connected to others without abandoning myself.

An exploration of curiosity, compassion, healthy boundaries, and the freedom that comes when we no longer need someone else to change before we can find peace.

If you have a question or a story you're trying to untangle, I'd love to hear from you.

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May you meet yourself with gentleness and curiosity.

Why do other people's emotions sometimes trigger us? And what might our reactions reveal about ourselves?

In this episode of Soul Shift Studio, I share a touching story about a mother who struggled with her daughter's frustration—and how a simple hug during homework became an unexpected moment of connection.

Through our conversations, she began recognizing how her own childhood experiences shaped the way she responded to difficult emotions, not only in her daughter but also in herself.

What unfolded was a beautiful reminder that compassion and discipline don't have to be opposites. We can honor the values we've inherited while consciously choosing what we want to carry forward.

Together, we explore:

• Why other people's frustration can trigger our own reactions

• How childhood conditioning shapes our relationships

• The difference between accepting emotions and accepting behaviors

• How small moments of awareness create room for connection and choice

A question to sit with:

When someone else's emotions make you uncomfortable, are you responding to what they need—or to what their emotions are bringing up in you?

Sometimes, the smallest moments reveal the most about our inner world.

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May you meet yourself with more gentleness and curiosity.

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A small moment behind the counter of my parents’ Chinese takeout restaurant changed the way I moved through the world.

I was thirteen when an interaction with a customer left me shocked, angry, and eventually questioning my own openness. In the weeks that followed, I became more guarded—until another encounter made me stop and ask myself: Who have I become?

In this episode, I reflect on what we carry forward from the things that happen to us, how hurt can ripple beyond where it began, and the awareness that can give us room to choose what we keep.

Maybe our experiences will always shape us.

But perhaps we can participate in how.

🎧 Episode 41 — The Girl Behind the Counter

If you have a story of your own that you’re trying to untangle, I’d love to hear from you: [email protected]

What happens when what we already know gets in the way ofwhat we're still trying to understand?

In this episode, Maggie reflects on how years in audit gavestructure to something that came naturally to her: observing, holding complexity, and trying to see the fuller picture before reaching a conclusion.

She explores the practice of putting “a question in mypocket”—not to suppress the question, but to keep it from interrupting what hasn't been understood yet.

Sometimes the question gets answered. Sometimes it changes.

And sometimes, when we listen a little longer, we simply see more.

🎧 Episode 36 — A Question in My Pocket

Have a story you're trying to untangle? I'd love to hearfrom you.

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An empty can. A fish-shaped dessert. A side hug. And BritneySpears.

Sometimes we don’t realize we’re living by a rule until wemeet someone who isn’t.

In this episode of Soul Shift Studio, Maggie reflects on theinvisible rules we absorb from our families, cultures, communities, and the places that shaped us—and what happens when we realize we may still be carryinga rule from a world we’re no longer in.

Some rules still feel like home. Some once helped us belong.And some may be quietly making our world smaller.

Maybe awareness isn’t about getting rid of them.

Maybe it simply gives us enough room to ask:

Is this still mine?

If something in this episode brings up a story you’re beginning to untangle, I’d love to hear from you at [email protected].Instagram: @thesoulshiftstudio

What happens when you’ve done the reflecting, the forgiving, the understanding—and something in you still reacts the same old way?

In this episode, I return to someone from Episode 35, Come Here, who began practicing something different: noticing what was happening in her body, staying with herself, and reminding the part of her preparing for a fight:

We’re okay. We’re safe. Nothing has happened yet.

Then an ordinary moment at work gave her a glimpse of what might be changing.

A situation that once could have left her defending, explaining, and replaying the interaction for days suddenly felt surprisingly simple.

“It was so easy.”

This episode is a reflection on the nervous system, the space between trigger and response, and what can become available when our bodies begin to come along with what our minds may already understand.

🎧 If you haven’t heard Episode 35 — Come Here, you may want to listen to that episode first for the beginning of this story.

If there’s a story in your own life that you’re trying to untangle—or a place where it might help to have someone stay with you while you learn to stay with yourself—I’d love to hear from you.

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Sometimes what we’re seeing is true. It’s just not allthat’s true.

A small moment between my kids over four chocolate-chippancakes made me think about the lenses we carry—the things we’re especially sensitive to, the experiences we notice, and the meaning we make from them.

What happens when a true experience begins to reinforce amuch bigger story about our lives?

In Episode 37 of Soul Shift Studio, The Lens, I reflect onthe questions we may have been carrying for a very long time, how they shape what we notice, and what can open up when we become curious enough to ask:

What happened?

What did I make it mean?

And what else might also be true?

If you have a story you’re trying to untangle, I’d love tohear from you.

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Surrender is a word I’ve returned to again and again over the years. And somehow, each time, it seems to mean something a little different.

In this episode, I reflect on what surrender looks like to me now—through the image of a forest, the parts of ourselves we welcome, and the parts we might rather not see.

What if seeing the whole forest means making room for all of it?

If you have a story you’re trying to untangle, I’d love to hear from you at [email protected].

May you meet yourself with more gentleness and curiosity.

Sometimes the thing we want most in a difficult moment is simply for someone to come closer.

But the harder we try to explain ourselves, the further away they seem to go.

This episode grew out of real conversations with someone who began noticing this pattern in themselves. Together, we explore what might be underneath the need to be understood—and what can happen when we learn to meet ourselves there, too.

Episode 35 — Come Here

If you have a story you’re trying to untangle, I’d love to hear from you.

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May you meet yourself with more gentleness and curiosity.