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I want you to decide today that you are going to live your best life.

Now the social media and retail culture would like you to believe that living your best life means traveling the globe enjoying time and location freedom, using the most lavish products and seeing the most fabulous sights.  In short, enjoying life to the fullest.

I have nothing against enjoying life, and props to you if you get in on that action, but I want to posit to you today that the deepest and most lasting enjoyment comes from having a sense of meaning and purpose.  Thus, living your best life comes not from how much pleasure you experience, but what an impact for good you make.

Friedrich Nietzsche said: "He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”

Decide today that your actions will be motivated by love.

Decide today that you’re done with trying to make your husband the bad guy.  Done with trying to prove to him that you are the victim of his mistreatment.  Give up on the fever dream that one day he’s going to say, “Thank you for pointing that out!  It’s clear to me that you’re the victim and I’m the perpetrator and this is entirely my fault.”  (quote from Gay Hendricks in his book THE BIG LEAP)

Decide today that instead, you are going to make him out to be as good a guy as you possibly can.  Does that make you the loser?  On the contrary.  Who’s the loser?  Someone who has to live with an awful person or someone who’s loving all the good they’re seeing so much that their man is rising into the golden image of the perception and expectations he’s sensing about himself?

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SOURCES: 

BE YOUR FUTURE SELF NOW, by Dr. Benjamin Hardy  

THE BIG LEAP by Gay Hendricks