Spiritual Psychology Coaching | Couples Coaching & How To Let Go of Resentment From Cheating

www.DrErin.Tv In this week's episode, Jawana desperately wants to let go of the resentment with her ex from them both cheating.  Do you struggle forgiving your partner or ex? Do you struggle forgiving yourself?  How to go from resentment to forgiveness How to begin to love again How to create healthy boundaries to take 100% responsibility for your emotions In this episode, we breakdown how resentment is created within and how to heal it from within We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to claim her birthright of being the Goddess that she is!    What you will learn in this episode: How to forgive yourself and your partner from cheating How to spot your limiting beliefs and limited identity projecting into your relationship How to make peace with your ex and create a life as friends      In this week’s podcast, we are diving into Sex, Love, & Recovery! In this episode, I'm talking about Couples Therapy from a Spiritual Counseling perspecting; how to let go of resentment from cheating ✨    Speaker 1 (00:00): Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you. Together we're awakening the world. Welcome back my friends. I am super psyched for this caller coming in one because we just chatted for just a moment before she came in, and I think that what I'm starting to recognize with the callers coming in for this series is the healing begins when we say Yes. So the minute that you even apply to come on this podcast, there's something that knows there's going to be a shift in the subconscious soul level and the healing begins. And sometimes healing doesn't always look like we want to look. Sometimes it brings up extra emotions, sometimes it brings up triggers out in the world. But what I know is that whatever is coming up is ready to be healed. So I'm super excited. So welcome. The next caller is Joanna and she is in from Roosevelt, New York 46 and is having what we would consider in the traditional human world, codependency and dysfunctional out picturing into relationship. And you wrote Letting go and allowing myself to be free in the new version of myself. So hi Jawana. Welcome, welcome, welcome. How are you? Speaker 2 (01:40): I'm great. How are you? Speaker 1 (01:43): You look stunning. First of all, I just want to say that thank you. You look absolutely gorgeous and thank you much for being courageous and vulnerable and just want to just fully receive your heart. What's going on? Speaker 2 (01:56): Letting go of resentment is where I'm at. I was married for almost 20 years and in choosing me I had to let that go and I still hold onto some of the resentment of it. Things come up no matter how much I try to clear the energy of it, I guess as much as he tries to be a friend, I push it back and I'm not able to receive even a olive branch or, yeah, that's where I'm at right now. Speaker 1 (02:29): Thank you. So I just want to get my head around the whole situation just so I can fully say you guys are divorced now, do you have children together? Speaker 2 (02:36): Two? Yes. Okay, Speaker 1 (02:37): Cool. And do you mind me asking, was there cheating? What really went down? Speaker 2 (02:44): Yeah, it was, there was infidelity on and then it was on both parts. I got angry and retaliated with infidelity and yeah, it was not nice. It wasn't really nice. One of the things was me just, I guess waking up to me. I wasn't happy either. So when I found out that there was infidelity, I'm like, well, I'm not happy, so why don't I make myself happy? And it became a selfish head on, but I knew we needed to separate because that was one thing I always said was I didn't want to lose the love. I know we genuinely love each other, but we were at a place where we weren't making each other happy anymore at all. And we like to say it was too good people, but just not good for each other. And I felt there was a great understanding. And then I feel like once the divorce and we've had trials and things afterwards that I just feel like I'm not supported in and the more I get more self-awareness, I know it's me not feeling supported. Speaker 1 (03:55): Yes, thank gosh. Right. I mean, so one, I just want to recognize you and your ex-husband. I want to recognize you guys are in a divine partnership in this lifetime of great teachers for each other. So I do know that there is a marriage at a soul level between the two of you guys that whether we sign the contracted divorce out here in the world, that when we have children with somebody, we are married in spiritual realm and that there's nowhere to run but to heal. So I want to congratulate you for being here and recognizing not just to point the finger but saying, Hey, what's really going on here? Yes. So I really want to acknowledge you. As we adult, we start adulting up. Our children start to see us growing up, and I'm like, damn, who do I want to be as a mom? And I want to be that person that reflects that I'm fully in my empowered state no longer pointing the finger at their parent because we know that's one of the worst things we can do for our children is to talk bad about their parent. And the more we can revere them, the more we can become peace within ourselves, the more we can be whole and holy as a family. Great. Okay, so let's do this thing. Let's do this thing. So I don't just believe, I know that all of life is bringing us back home meaning to God's source within meaning to no longer sin, which what does sin mean from a metaphysical and new thought perspective? Sin means missing the mark. Sin means placing our power outside of ourselves. So your ex-husband is the universe putting you through a masterclass for you to finally graduate to no longer point the finger to an outside source. Yeah. So resentment, how does resentment create a, you're a divine, powerful goddess, queen, creator, and how do we create resentment? We create resentment. It's all emotional mastery, right? Resentment is basically wanting things to be different than they are or wanting them to have been different than they are and putting something in that way. You could call it frustration, you could call it resentment, you can call it animosity, whatever it is, it's the consideration that something is in your way of what you want to create. Resentment is expectations not being met by an external source, right? So we know that the first step of all this is recognizing how we created it. Speaker 2 (06:26): Yeah. Okay. Speaker 1 (06:32): The biggest lie with our exes is this. I'm going to tell you one of my personal stories I was not married to, but I was engaged to somebody that lied, cheated and was very narcissistic, abusive and things like that. And when we finally went our separate ways, I suffered greatly and I was like, how can I love this man? After everything he did. In fact, I don't love him. And I kept telling myself, I don't love him. He's bad, he's wrong. He did this, he did that. And the thing that finally made it begin to heal is when I admitted that I still loved him because love is truth. That doesn't mean we don't hold people accountable, but the truth will set us free. So let's just go there for a minute. What are you wanting to create for yourself in your life or in the past that you thought he was standing in the way of you creating that? Speaker 2 (07:20): Well, I guess that's me now. So everything, my job I, 23 years I left that and I started my own business. I went to school for massage therapy. I'm in school getting my master's in the healing arts, Chinese medicine. Beautiful. Speaker 1 (07:37): Beautiful. Speaker 2 (07:38): So being a healer is my path. And I remember going into massage school and what if that doesn't work for us? It doesn't work for him. And I said, I just feel like this is more of a calling than anything else. So moving forward in that and in my business right now is the best version of myself that I see now. Speaker 1 (08:01): Great. Great. Okay. So it sounds like you're coming to a place where you're really stepping into your empowerment, really, truly. Right? So we need to do some amends, meaning forgiving. Forgiveness is not about forgiving them necessarily. It's releasing us from being the effect of them. Speaker 2 (08:20): Okay, Speaker 1 (08:21): I'll say that one more time. Forgiveness is not about forgiving them per se, it's about releasing us from being the effect of them. So where do you still feel like you're the effect of him? Speaker 2 (08:33): Where do I feel that I'm the effect? So when you say the effect meaning affected by him. Speaker 1 (08:39): Yes, correct. Exactly. Speaker 2 (08:41): Okay. The most, I guess when I get the texts, he'll still text me or stuff like that, and I want to be able to receive them in a happy place, but I'm not. Speaker 1 (08:52): Great. Okay. I'm going to just read this little, let's see if I can find this right here. Yeah, there's a few things here. Before I get to that, I want to read one of the most traditional quote that recovery says every single day. And it's something that you may want to consider saying to yourself in your morning practice when you're meditating, when you're working out, when you get that text that comes through, okay? And I'm going to read it, okay? It's a very, very well known quote, okay? It's a prayer. God grant me the courage to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. I'm going to say it again, God, not toman in the sky per se, whatever your God is the God'