Spiritual Psychology Coaching | How to handle money issues in your relationship

In this week's episode, Chelsea is experiencing money issues in her relationships Do you struggle with money and financial issues in your relationshps How to go from resentment to full financial empowerment How to break the viscious cycle of wanting people to be different than they are How to no longer hand your power over to money and start manifesing abundantly  In this episode, we breakdown resentments vs. becoming empowered in the realm of money in your relationships. We go through a divinely guided coaching session, assisting her to claim her birthright of prosperity and releasing the upsets with her family.    What you will learn in this episode: How to break your family lineage around finances How to spot your limiting beliefs that are projecting from your parents down to your children How to take responsibility for your prosperity and bank account.      In this week’s podcast, we are diving into Sex, Love, & Recovery! In this episode, I'm talking about how to handle money issues in your relationships ✨    Speaker 1 (00:00): Welcome to the Dr. Erin podcast. This is a top spiritual psychology coach podcast to inspire and teach you how to transform your trauma, birth, your soul's purpose, and manifest your dreams. Hi, I'm Dr. Erin. Dr. Divinity. I'm committed to bringing you the best coaching tips, spiritual advice, trauma healing, and metaphysical recovery secrets. I'm here to help you monetize your spiritual gifts and love your life. I want you to know that I've been exactly where you are and I believe in you together we're awakening the world. Okay, our next caller is Chelsea. She's in from Denver, Colorado, and we are going to be talking a little bit about financial or money issues within relationship in particular dealing with family and friend issues. So, hi Chelsea, how are you? Speaker 2 (00:53): Hi, I'm doing well. Glad to have this time with you. Speaker 1 (00:56): Super excited to dive deep into this. So what really helps people out there is to get as detailed as oriented of specific things that have happened so people can totally relate. So what's going on? Speaker 2 (01:06): So I was really thinking about this conversation and a lot came up just leading up to it. And then this morning when I was thinking about it, I really came into pivots prosperity and purpose, and those three words kept coming up together, especially in the realm of people pleasing. So that was what was going on, especially people pleasing with friends and family and partnerships and being a parent. Speaker 1 (01:32): Okay, great. So if you can get specific around an actual instance that happened, what happened specifically that is an example of a place that you got triggered or a place that you felt like there was financial or money abuse? Speaker 2 (01:45): Something that came up specifically last week was when I went to Florida and my mom came and there was something that happened with the rental car where I had prepaid and then she went off and created this other payment later. Then I got charged the next day for a bill of $750. I told her I did pay for the rental car ahead of time. This was something extra. If you had called me up to the rental car place, I could have dealt with this. And the way she kind of responded was she got upset that I brought in my partner to talk about the financials of whether we could cover that right now. So it was interesting just to want to bring him out of it. And then also she's like, well, can't you ask your dad for that money? Which is a really convoluted, deep subject. And I know that that was just a moment. We haven't really talked since that was last week and there's been some moment, and I feel like that's just the tip of an iceberg of a lot of entitlement with finances and cutting out partners and deeper stuff with me and people. Please. Yeah. Speaker 1 (02:50): One, I just want to acknowledge you for recognizing it's much more than just that. That's just a symbol of something much deeper as the healing of your entire family, which I really get your intention here. I can feel it deeply in you. So I know that you do a lot of spiritual work, and so I know that it all comes down to the trauma within our lineage and what's really going on. And so us personally in our own kind of suffering around it, we want people, places and things to be different. We want our mothers to be different. So we have to know, first of all, and this already that it's not about changing them because they may change and they may not change. It's about accepting them exactly where they are and taking full responsibility for our own emotions and our own whatever it is that we're choosing to create in our lives. So it'd be great if you could say, I can sit down with my mom and say, Hey, let's heal our entire family lineage, but most of the time it doesn't work like that. Okay, so let's take a look at, let's pretend that she didn't change at all, but the family dynamics are what they are. Just looking at what meaning and what limited beliefs are projecting into your side of the street. So when she does that, what meaning or what did it make you feel? Speaker 2 (04:04): I felt like I was seen as just a product of my dad's money. And that's something I've been combating with for a long time, and I've always really tried to make my own path and I get brought back into this money story, and I also saw a lot of that triangle, that victim, perpetrator, rescuer concept of where I try to rescue my mom and where that's actually created more trauma for all of Speaker 1 (04:35): Us. So it sounds almost like you feel like you're being manipulated or used for some type. You're entangled in the effect of whatever's happening between your mom money and your father, whatever. Is that what I'm hearing you say? Yes. Yeah. Okay. I totally get that. I totally get that. And we recognize that all of life is designed for us to awaken to the truth of who we are. So we as divine goddesses stepping into our divine hood instead of our human hood, whether that occurred or didn't occur, we wouldn't necessarily take it personal. We would realize that those are their issues going on. A healed person would come into that situation and be like, man, that sucks that my mom is still manipulating and doing all that, but it really has nothing to do with me and that I choose from this moment to create whatever I want, whether that be making sure that I don't get that car rental before I make sure everyone's deposited their amounts or whatever it is or not tee myself up for the same situation over and over again. It sounds like this has happened multiple times Speaker 2 (05:37): And then just to use, well, I bought the ticket, which was a birthday present for me. I wouldn't have done that if I had to cover the car rental too. And so it kind of feels like the gifting and then it's pulling back and the money. And the hardest part about that whole thing is I maybe normally could have rescued her in the past, but because actually I have reached too deep into a lot of my future inheritances with the money to build my yoga studio and all the renovations and buying that building, I actually chose to and with my father too, we just chose to let it be right now, which really helps me for the first time be resilient in my own finances. And the truth is, I'd almost, I mean, I don't want this for the future, but I'd almost rather be broke and sober into my finances and not just continue to rescue my mom or rescue other people and be sovereign about my finances rather than just getting money and not feeling I guess worthy of it and then dishing it out to someone else. So it was just a really big wake up call for my own relationship with finances and family and people pleasing. So there's a lot that I've been juggling in my own mind with that. Speaker 1 (06:49): Okay, great. So look, you're highly evolved and just the fact that you can see all that says a lot about all the work that you've done. So it's not like you're a beginner going, I don't see how I'm not the effect of everything. You get that it's all showing up for your growth and showing up for you to remember who you are. So what do we do about this now? Okay, here's the situation. I have some resentment around it. I'm feeling really disjointed from my mother and father and family or whatever it is. I financially am having the effects of all this. So what do we do from here? Okay, Speaker 2 (07:24): And tell me. Speaker 1 (07:25): Yeah, right. Well, we know it's really the steps of recovery. It doesn't matter if you're in a 12 step or whether you're just doing spiritual recovery, it's all the same work. The foundation of all the work is the same. So the first step, of course is to become aware and decide, powerfully decide, Hey, I'm ready to heal and end this vicious cycle. So are you ready to end the vicious cycle? Speaker 2 (07:45): Yes. On New Moon too. So perfect. Speaker 1 (07:48): Right? Really though, like girlfriend. Girlfriend, Speaker 2 (07:52): And I've been writing my whole story up to this point of just how many times I've pivoted in Covid and everything and the family and it's just like it's all getting up to this moment. I feel it. Speaker 1 (08:01): Great. Yeah, I totally feel that. Okay. So the second step we know is reprogramming the subconscious mind because we can try and manage everything and try and do our spiritual practice and all that. That's beautiful and we need to do that deep, deep work. It sounds like you've done a lot of trauma work, but there's still some charge going on. So we need to know is that from past things that have gone on or is this a