Value of getting out and helping others.

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Spiritually stuck.

Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

Unlike a lot of my more upbeat posts, this one is good, it's gonna be a little bit of a downer but I'll give you a bright side to it.

And it's one of those titles I don't expect to get a whole lot of play off of, it's not something that people are searching for, that I've been able to find. But I couldn't quite put it in any other way. This isn't my story. This is a story of a new friend that I made.

Today, I was talking with a gentleman, older in age. But it was very clear that he was, I guess, I don't know of a better way of saying it a spiritual crisis, in the sense that he was stuck.

He was stuck in this place of repeating these horrible scenarios from his life.

He was horribly traumatized as a child by his father specifically. It's something that continued throughout life, where everybody just seemed to use him as their punching bag. And if you attract that, you know, after a while, it's not your fault, but you end up becoming responsible for attracting abuse and bringing it into your life because that's just what you're used to doing.

You allow it to happen to you.

It's impossible not to, especially when you're young, you don't know how else to handle it in when you're traumatized.

It's just something that keeps repeating over and over again, until you learn how to handle things properly.

I guess you would say, change the ending of the story. So I'm not sure if this is going to mean much to you, if you feel like you're in a position similar to my friend, where you're just not quite sure what to do next, you know, you have solutions in front of you.

You don't even know how to really apply them properly.

You feel like, there's no hope it seems to work for everybody else, but not for me type of thing. I'll tell you what really hit me hard while talking with this person, and hit me hard because it was a new phenomena but something that I've discussed here before.

What hit me hard is when I asked him, What are you doing on a daily basis?

What do you what are you doing in life?

And I asked the question, because I was afraid of what the answer was. And I was right. Because what the answer was nothing.

This person did not have much of a life he did not get out there. Especially one of the things I found with people that are stuck in their own heads, and stuck in these paradigms is they don't interact with other people, they find a way to close themselves off from society.

They don't have close family or close friends that they can trust in or that they can help really honestly, it's this huge selfishness that can follow you.

I'm not saying about you. But this can happen. I've seen it way too often. Where there's a selfishness that you're so stuck in your own head and your own problems, that you can't help other people with their issues. A

nd I'm telling you, you can help other people, even if you're a horribly damaged person, there's still things you can do to help other people but you've got to be around people to begin with.

You have to learn how to deal with people and not resent them, or judge them for all of their issues.

If you can do that you can find a way to help people even though you sti...