In this episode Paul explores how to be honest about your own broken places in marriage, avoiding the two extremes of being too hard or too easy on yourself. He explains how understanding reasons helps, but prioritising the big issues your spouse actually cares about and following through with consistent action is what truly heals.

Focus on the "chunks" before the "splinters", let actions—not promises—show real change, and keep it up so your spouse can trust the improvement is lasting.