SSP 157. Three Ways to Stop Self-Sabotage – Lessons from Clients

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♦ Three Ways to Stop Self-Sabotage – Lessons from Clients ♦

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Why do I keep doing this to myself?

Scott outlines six approaches that consistently lead to weight loss failure, offers alternatives that work, and answers questions from his live audience.

♦♦ “A body under constant surveillance can never be free.” ♦♦

• It’s hard to help people who refuse to accept their problem.

• True struggle or laziness? There’s a difference.

• Internal struggles can be masked as external.

• Lack of self-acceptance is the real struggle. Weight loss and physique transformation is just the middle-man.

• Diet and fitness industry capitalize on body insecurity.

• Common beliefs, lies people tell themselves:

- “I just need the right diet.”

- “If I could just find the magic program…”

- Keto, Intermittent fasting, etc.

- Honeymooning: early success that fails long-term, then self-blame for program failure.

- “Just tell me what to eat and I’ll eat it.”

♦ Three simple steps to winning internal struggles ♦

1. Uncover the deeper issue.

• It’s not about the program; it’s about the mindset behind the program.

• Continuing to try, fail, then feeling defeated is a signal of an internal struggle.

• This leads to falling prey to quick fix diets and exercise programs.

• A coach’s honesty with them won’t work if the client isn’t honest with themselves.

2. Accept yourself.

• Self-esteem is something you experience. Self-acceptance is something you do.

• Refuse to be in an adversarial relationship with yourself.

• New neurosis, Facebook Envy: it’s a thing.

The only mindset that works [long term] is self-acceptance, without exception.

3. Build self-acceptance daily.

• Progress takes place a little at a time.

• Use a few specific exercises.

- Rubber band exercise: wear a rubber band on the wrist and snap it when thinking self-sabotaging thought.

- Sentence completion. Answer these four questions:

+ Food is my enemy because…

+ Food is my friend because…

+ Food is just food because…

+ Food represents something else entirely because…

Questions to honestly ask yourself to uncover deeper issues:

• Do you feel pressure to abandon a diet strategy when dining out?

• Are you self-conscious about eating meals you prepare when others don’t?

• How much does drinking alcohol get in the way of weight loss efforts?

• Did you grow up in a home with a parent who constantly dieted or obsessed with body image?

• Do you seek approval from a parent?

• Are you swayed by diet or exercise trends?

• Do you follow enviable physical specimens on social media?

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Diet Resources by Scott

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- Permanent Weight Loss:

https://scottabelfitness.samcart.com/products/permanent-weight-loss-ebook/?_fs=c3d66231-66a2-480e-bb00-dc6a5999dceb&_ga=2.247405700.1814702990.1568484033-496385765.1518882227

- The Anti-Diet Approach:

https://scottabelfitness.samcart.com/products/the-anti-diet-approach-ebook/

- The Cycle Diet course:

https://scottabelfitness.com/cycle-diet-course/

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