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Stop Acting Surprised: Violent Men Built These Systems
Episode 7 - “Stop Acting Surprised: Violent Men Built These Systems”
In this episode of Tired AF, the hosts take on a reality the world keeps pretending is shocking: violent men have built and maintained the systems that govern power, punishment, and control. Through historical context, lived experience, and unapologetic analysis, the conversation traces how patriarchy, white supremacy, capitalism, and state violence are deeply intertwined. From the founding of the United States to modern policing, including ICE, the hosts dismantle the myth that this violence is accidental or new. It is systemic, it is profitable, and it has been normalized for generations.
They emphasize this is not about hating men, but about naming a system that dehumanizes everyone and trains women to live on constant alert. Through personal stories, cultural examples, and hard truths, they call out how silence and distraction protect abusers, while accountability and collective refusal are the only way things change.
Notable mentions from the episode:
Andrea Dworkin’s 1983 speech delivered to the Midwest Regional Conference of the National Organization for Changing Men in St. Paul, MN - titled, “I Want a 24Hour Truce During Which There is No Rape.”
Mel’s new Spiritual safe-space: Shine Sanctuary
“Things” to Think About From This Episode:
Where have I been taught to normalize, excuse, or minimize violence because it is “just the way things are,” and what would it look like to stop doing that?
In my own life, where am I being asked to manage someone else’s comfort at the expense of my safety, truth, or humanity, and what would change if I refused?
Download the full transcript here: https://tinyurl.com/tiredaf-s1-ep-7
Make sure to Join the Rebellion newsletter on Substack https://wearetiredaf.substack.com/ where we keep the conversation going and offer new insights into reclaiming our power in this crazy world.
Send your questions and comments for Tired AF to [email protected]
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You can find us any time you want to connect at Tired AF: https://bio.site/wearetiredaf
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wearetiredaf.substack.com
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By We Are Tired AFEpisode 7 - “Stop Acting Surprised: Violent Men Built These Systems”
In this episode of Tired AF, the hosts take on a reality the world keeps pretending is shocking: violent men have built and maintained the systems that govern power, punishment, and control. Through historical context, lived experience, and unapologetic analysis, the conversation traces how patriarchy, white supremacy, capitalism, and state violence are deeply intertwined. From the founding of the United States to modern policing, including ICE, the hosts dismantle the myth that this violence is accidental or new. It is systemic, it is profitable, and it has been normalized for generations.
They emphasize this is not about hating men, but about naming a system that dehumanizes everyone and trains women to live on constant alert. Through personal stories, cultural examples, and hard truths, they call out how silence and distraction protect abusers, while accountability and collective refusal are the only way things change.
Notable mentions from the episode:
Andrea Dworkin’s 1983 speech delivered to the Midwest Regional Conference of the National Organization for Changing Men in St. Paul, MN - titled, “I Want a 24Hour Truce During Which There is No Rape.”
Mel’s new Spiritual safe-space: Shine Sanctuary
“Things” to Think About From This Episode:
Where have I been taught to normalize, excuse, or minimize violence because it is “just the way things are,” and what would it look like to stop doing that?
In my own life, where am I being asked to manage someone else’s comfort at the expense of my safety, truth, or humanity, and what would change if I refused?
Download the full transcript here: https://tinyurl.com/tiredaf-s1-ep-7
Make sure to Join the Rebellion newsletter on Substack https://wearetiredaf.substack.com/ where we keep the conversation going and offer new insights into reclaiming our power in this crazy world.
Send your questions and comments for Tired AF to [email protected]
*************
You can find us any time you want to connect at Tired AF: https://bio.site/wearetiredaf
This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit wearetiredaf.substack.com