Tony explains what it means to be anxiously attached and how emotionally draining it is to be in a relationship with someone who has an anxious attachment style. Symptoms of an anxious attachment style in adults can be (from https://www.verywellmind.com/attachment-anxiety-4692761)

Behaviors that smother or drive their partner awayConstant need for contact and support from othersFear of being under appreciatedFeeling unsure if a partner can be counted onHypersensitivity to rejection and abandonmentNeed to increase feelings of securityNegative self-view or self-worthPositive view of one's partnerVigilance to signs that a partner is pulling awayWorry over losing a partnerYearning to feel closer and more secure with others

Tony refers to the articles "What is an Anxious Attachment Style" https://www.verywellhealth.com/anxious-attachment-5204408 and "How Anxious Attachment Style Affects Relationships," https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201904/how-anxious-attachment-style-affects-relationships

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[00:00:01] A week or so ago, I was rooting through the fridge and I was looking for an avocado because my go to meal is a packaged lentil mix over some rice with half an avocado cut up on top with some sea salt sprinkled. So let's go a little bit psychology nerd on that last sentence. I have often wondered that at the end of a day of listening to people share a variety of problems and challenges, some of them marriage threatening, some of them honestly life threatening, that if my brain doesn't just love to spend literally zero emotional calories or energy on wondering what's for dinner, so it's lentils and rice and half an avocado to the point where if I'm missing an avocado, my brain will say, Sorry, we're going to go all or nothing on this bad boy and we cannot have it all now. So I'm going to need you to go back and forth between the refrigerator and the pantry and just stare blankly while there really isn't much happening in your brain until you finally impulsively choose cereal. Because it's sugary, it's sweet. It will give you that little dopamine bump. And don't forget [00:01:00] your childhood issues. You guys didn't have the fancy name brand sugary cereals very often. So what have you done as an adult?