**Episode Intro: “Why You Can’t Find Love – and What to Do About It”**

In this episode we sit down with Ted — author of *Here’s Why You Can’t Find Love* and a self‑declared “relationship truth‑teller.” Ted returns for a second round to pull back the curtain on the hidden economics and biology that keep so many of us stuck in dead‑end romances.

We’ll hear Ted lay out the staggering numbers: more than half of marriages end in divorce, costing U.S. corporations $300 billion in lost productivity and another $30 billion in taxpayer‑funded social services. He argues that the problem isn’t a lack of love; it’s a lack of **relationship skills and competencies**—the same kind of expertise you’d expect from a CFO before you’d hand them a balance sheet.

From the chemistry of oxytocin and testosterone to the “radio‑station” metaphor that shows how the stories we inherit shape our expectations, Ted reveals the universal truths he uncovered while studying human behavior across continents. He challenges the old script of “searching for love first,” urging listeners instead to **look for compatibility in money, health, parenting, sexuality, conflict‑resolution, and more**, and to develop those qualities in themselves.

We’ll also explore the cultural history behind how society’s attitudes toward courtship have shifted—from 1700s England’s failed experiment with “women choosing their own men,” to the 20th‑century sexual revolutions that left many navigating a sea of mixed signals and “game.”

If you’ve ever felt caught in a cycle of relationships that go nowhere, or wondered why the “love‑language” talk feels hollow, this conversation offers a no‑fluff, data‑driven roadmap to building the kind of partnership that actually produces love as a **by‑product**, not a prerequisite.

Grab your notebook, take a deep breath, and get ready for an eye‑opening, empowering dive into the mechanics of modern romance. 🎧✨