Episode 45 - Stop Chasing the 1% and Give the Average Joe a Chance

Many women say they want marriage — yet unknowingly disqualify good, emotionally available men because they don’t feel “exceptional” enough.  Chasing the top one percent may feel exciting, but it often leads to disappointment and delay. Sunshine learns the difference between standards and strategy, why consistency is often overlooked, and how wisdom — not fantasy — leads to lasting connection.

This conversation is for Christian women who want:

💜 Healthy relationships

💜 Emotional maturity

💜 Biblical discernment (not entitlement or fear-based dating)

You’ll learn how to identify the difference between preferences and values, why character is quieter than charisma, and how to slow down long enough to see a man clearly before dismissing him.

This episode is not about settling — it’s about seeing wisely.

What We're Unpacking:

💜 Why chasing the “top 1%” of men is often about fantasy, not standards

💜 How immediate chemistry can block discernment

💜 The difference between attraction and sustainability

💜 What Scripture teaches about outward appearance vs. character

💜 Questions to ask before ending a connection too quickly

Scripture Highlight:

Proverbs 31:11

“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.”  Biblical love is about trust, not competition.

Song of Songs 2:16

“My beloved is mine and I am his.”  Mutual choosing. Mutual belonging. Not ambiguity.

Proverbs 4:23

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”  Guarding your heart includes guarding who has access to it.

1 Corinthians 15:33

“Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character.’”  Who you entertain teaches people how to treat you.

1 Samuel 16:7 

“People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”   

Key Takeaway:

💜 You don’t need the rarest man.

💜 You need the right one.

💜 Clarity grows where patience lives.

RESOURCES

💜 The Relationship Red Flag Journal by Lindsay Brown

A spirit-led tool to help Christian women discern clearly, journal honestly, and make wise relationship decisions.  ➡️ Get Your Copy on Amazon

 Makes a beautiful gift for a friend walking through a similar season.

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Keep your light on and your standards high. Thank you for listening. Enjoy today!