When was the last time you decided to do something for yourself before anyone else?

When was the last time you put your needs, dreams, and desires ahead of your children or spouse?

We can become lost in who we are when we are told who we need to be because of a certain title that we carry.

In this episode, I ask the question do you think you can love and respect others if you don’t love and respect yourself? Do you love yourself and respect yourself the way you love and respect others. 

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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Growing up whenever the word midlife crisis was used in the sentence I would associate it with a man buying a sports car. I never understood what the word midlife crisis actually meant until this now. I know that since turning 47 this past year I have entered my own midlife crisis. Everyone’s midlife crisis will look different. For myself I am not buying the convertible but I am looking at my life thinking how much time can I make up after not allowing myself to experience the life that I truly wanted. In this episode I talk about the regrets that I have in allowing people in my life or just society tell me what or how I should’ve lived. 

This moment is actually magical. Coming full circle in accepting and forgiving the choices that I had made in the past because of the fear of either rejection, disappointment and ridicule. It's about no longer worrying about anyone but myself. It's about wanting to make new experiences and creating more memories. It's about living the next half of my life for me. 

I hope you enjoy it!

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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In this weeks episode I talk about being a people pleaser.

Are you someone that always wonders whether or not you’ve done enough for someone? Are you someone that will put aside what you were doing or wanted to do to please someone else and what their expectations are? Are you someone that always feels like you are not going to be liked or part of a group or excepted unless you go above and beyond to make people happy? Have many times have you decided to do something and then felt like you had to stop and give your energy to someone else? If you find yourself nodding your head yes to some if not all of these questions then this episode is for you! 

I hope you enjoy it!

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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In this episode I talk about the choices we may make as we enter into a committed relationship when it comes to our own personal finances, and our own personal growth. We automatically feel like we need to be someone different to be able to adapt to the life we are choosing to have. Why do we do this? Why do we forget about ourselves and what we need in our own personal journey?

Are we able to change this? Is it possible for us to have it all? I would love to her what you have to say!

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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Elaine xoxo

In this episode I share with you what I want my legacy to be. So what does this even mean “what is your Legacy” Your legacy is what kind of impact you are going to leave in this world in that particular role, what will you be remembered by.

I want to live the life of being fierce and vocal. I want to live the life of being fair and honest. I want to live the life of speaking the truth and being understanding and compassionate to others. I want to live this life as a female that is proud to be a woman.

I want to my daughters, nieces, and every other female to believe that they can be all of that as well and still be loved and liked by others. I want to prove as women that we can live in peace and harmony amongst each other and not to have to portray the role of a mean girl or a bitch to protect ourselves from being hurt from one another. 

I really want to build this vibration of unity, power, and self respect. I want t help change this world so that as a woman we will have an easier time living our lives.

What do you want your legacy to be?

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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In this weeks episode I talk about what giving yourself permission may look like.

In 2020 I gave myself permission to trust myself in saying yes to something that I feared so much in doing but I was also so excited to know how different my life could actually be.

Giving myself that permission made me feel alive. It made me believe that I could trust in myself and in my own decisions.

Remember back to when you were a child and asked your parent for permission to go on a bike ride, or have a sleepover, or stay up super late and watch movies all night long. How excited did that make you feel as a child? How happy did it make you feel knowing that your parents allowed you to do something that you really wanted to do.

As an adult why do we no longer give ourselves permission on a daily basis to do things that make us happy. That may give us a little skip in our step. That allows us to just smile a bit and be thankful that you gave yourself permission that day to do that little thing that brought you joy.

Are you going to reevaluate and be kinder to yourself and start to give permission to enjoy some of the little things in life… While you’re at it also remember to give yourself permission to trust your gut and say yes to some of the bigger things in life and just go for it!

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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Elaine xoxo

In this weeks episode I share about my own experience on how I get into my own head and tell myself to just settle. I talk myself out of believing that I deserve more, and that I should just accept the way things are.

Do you find that you also settle and tell yourself that you don't need to change? Whether it has to do with changing your job, moving homes, staying in a relationship, or changing your personal mindset do you tell yourself to just accept it the way it is? 

Do you dream of the changes you so desperately want but are too afraid to make them a reality? What are you afraid of? Failing? People judging you? Are you afraid of the changes to actually happen? Why make that stop you? 

What do you deserve to have? What do you deserve to feel? What do you deserve to dream of and have? Find a way to have it all. Don't settle.

In order for something to happen action is required. Don't sit on it. Don't talk about it. Just do it, for you.

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

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Elaine xoxo

In this weeks episode I discuss what life looks and feels like when you tell yourself you never have enough time. When you are constantly thinking about what needs to be done tomorrow, the following weekend or next month.

From the moment you wake up do you find yourself struggling to keep up? Do you look at the clock and feel like it's running ahead of you? Do you give yourself permission to just not get everything done before the day ends? 

When you don't live in the present moment it makes you feel like you constantly have so much on the go and so much to do. The feeling of exhaustion and trying to play catch-up becomes present.

Also the feeling of a failure can linger because you’re reminding yourself of what still needs to happen.

Why do we tend to do this to ourselves. Sometimes I think we do it because we feel the need to be busy. We feel the need to micromanage everything that will be occurring in our lives. Is it a bad trait to have? Probably in the long run because there is no time to just enjoy the moment. Can you really tell yourself I will think about it tomorrow and allow that thought not to come back into your head until then?

How much changed for yourself when the world went into lockdown? How long did it take you to start living your day by the second? Not thinking about what had to be done tomorrow, or how was the next weekend gong to pan out. Did you learn to how to appreciate your breath?

I hope this episode brings inspiration to you the listener that feels they also chase the clock every day. I hope it brings inspiration to you the listener that does not ask for help. And I hope it brings inspiration to you the listener that feels the need to be a perfectionist at what you are doing every day. Taking the time to love and appreciate your self will allow you to truly live your best life. It’s never too late to start you just need to do it.

If you felt a connection with this podcast I would love to hear from you. You can email me at [email protected] You can also follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elaine.g.scudds/

Don't forget a a new episode drops every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe so you don't miss out and while you are at it, like and share, lets all Stop Chasing What Isn't Changing!

Elaine xoxo