We're diving deep into one of the most controversial topics in relationships: what to do when you're out of alignment with your partner.

I know what most relationship coaches tell you: "work through it," "compromise," "relationships take work." But here's our honest take: if you're truly out of alignment with someone, they're not your person. Period.

In this episode, Cam and Elle break down:

• Why we believe the person you marry should NOT be "the person you fight with most" (this old-school relationship advice is toxic!)
• The two types of alignment that actually matter in relationships
• How your limiting beliefs about dating are literally repelling your dream person
• Why your energy is either a magnet or a repellent for high-value partners
• The voice note exercise that will expose every limiting belief sabotaging your love life
• How Elle went from having "resting misery face" to magnetizing incredible relationships

If you're tired of settling, tired of the "dating is hard" narrative, and ready to attract someone who's actually aligned with the highest version of yourself - this episode is for you.

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⁠⁠⁠Cameron Hogan⁠⁠⁠ is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100⁠⁠ ⁠newsletters⁠⁠⁠ in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called⁠⁠ ⁠Great Morning⁠⁠⁠.

⁠⁠⁠Elle Beecher⁠⁠⁠ helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle⁠ ⁠⁠writes⁠⁠⁠ every day, hosts a⁠⁠ ⁠weekly walk⁠⁠⁠ for meaningful conversations in Austin (151 so far), hosts a daily⁠⁠ gratitude call⁠⁠⁠ alongside Cam (220 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with⁠⁠ ⁠The Board Walks⁠⁠⁠.

CHAPTERS

 0:00 Welcome Back & Some Toxic Relationship Advice

 2:38 You Don't Need To Be Perfect To Find Love (But You Need To Be On The Path)

 5:38 The Two Types Of Alignment That Actually Matter In Relationships

 10:26 Why We're Being Bombarded With Negative Dating Stories (And It's Not An Accident)

 12:54 The Voice Note Exercise That Will Expose All Your Limiting Beliefs

 19:33 The "Good Men/Women Moments" Assignment

 24:23 Why Extremely Attractive People Can Still Be Repulsive

30:38 How Choosing Differently Creates A Completely New Reality

35:38 The Secret: You Can't Misalign With Someone Who Shares Your Core Values