There

is a big difference between doing and being. For example, you can

experience anger but not be an angry person. You can make a bad decision

but not be a bad person. You can fail but not be a failure. When we

make decisions and emotions mean something is wrong with us, personally,

that those somehow define who we are, we only make it worse. And we

make something personal that probably actually isn’t.

Of

course, I’m not suggesting we don’t take responsibility for our choices

and our actions. But I am suggesting we maybe don’t personalize them so

deeply. That we don’t assign meaning and character traits that aren't

really there. When we don’t personalize things that aren’t personal, we

eliminate the pile-on of more negative emotions, freeing us to examine

ourselves, to grow and to change.

“When you

personalize it, you make it mean something more pervasive and more

permanent about yourself… That’s gonna be so much worse. Right? That’s

gonna be such a bigger deal, and have so many more repercussions for

you.” – Dr. Sara Dill

What You’ll Learn

• Difference between doing and being
• Adjust your perception
• Pile-on prevents growth and change
• Catch yourself challenge

Contact Info and Recommended ResourcesPodcast Episodes that pair well with this one:

• Lessons Learned from Don Miguel Ruiz (The Four Agreements)
• How to Forgive Yourself

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