The martial arts teach us that pain is the product of direct resistance. 
When we actively resist--pain is the result.
 Instead of directly resisting the force, martial artists are taught that by "blending" with the force in parallel, one  can better gain control and ultimately, better influence the desired outcome. 
In today's world we encounter many immovable forces, where if we resist, we will only feel pain. 
Listen to today's podcast to learn how to "blend" in everyday situations at work, school, and home to avoid pain and bring control and resolution.