It's Not What You Think

Stop Talking More. Lead From Your Heart Instead | Ep 67


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You've mastered the skills. The frameworks. The presence in the room. But there's a gap between what you know and what lands—between the words you choose and the connection you're actually creating.

Most leaders think they have a communication problem. What they actually have is a presence problem. After over a decade teaching communication, Celinne couldn't speak from her heart without crying. That contradiction revealed something most won't admit: there's a difference between performing connection and experiencing it.

In this episode, Celinne shares why connection isn't created through time but through presence, how to recognize when you're speaking from strategy instead of soul, and what actually has to shift for people to hear you. You'll learn the framework that closes the gap between your inner truth and your external expression—so the impact you're creating finally matches the leader you've become.

ON THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Explore why we're all talking but nobody's really listening

04:55 Discover how presence beats time in creating deep connection
08:11 Learn the difference between speaking and actual communication
14:30 Witness the moment Celinne spoke from her heart for the first time
27:42 Understand the three factors eroding our capacity for dialogue
42:16 Practice the shift from head-based strategy to heart-led expression
58:34 Reflect on what heart-led communication could change in your life
01:06:42 Recognize the power your authentic expression has on the world

KEY IDEAS:

Presence creates connection, not time: You can know someone for years and still feel like strangers. Deep connection comes from moments of genuine presence—not hours clocked together.

✨ Speaking isn't communicating: Communication is a bridge from your internal experience to external reality. Most people speak from their heads (logic, strategy, protection) instead of their hearts (truth, vulnerability, authenticity).

✨ Heart-led communication transforms everything: When you speak from your soul—when you translate your inner truth without distortion—you create intimacy, inspire others, and lead from a place that actually moves people. It's the difference between performing connection and experiencing it.

Celinne Da Costa is a podcast host, author, and coach for leaders navigating 'I've made it—now what?' She guides them to redesign their next act: more meaningful, more aligned, more fun... and led by their soul's truth.

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It's Not What You ThinkBy Celinne Da Costa