Is it better to try and think your way out of, or through your problems or are you only making things worse? How can simply acknowledging your issues, and looking at them with curiosity actually help? Tony discusses the article, “How Analyzing Your Problems May Be Counterproductive,” by Ray Williams https://contextualscience.org/node/4935

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[00:00:00] Last week I mentioned that I left my AirPods at a motel in Rexburg, Idaho, and I am now using a new pair. But I cannot lie. I find myself pulling up my old AirPods a couple of times a day to see what they're up to. I mark them on, find my phone as lost, but they are most definitely being used. They are not lost. The funny thing is that I had the case custom engraved. It literally says Virtual Couch Podcast and my name. So as I'm recording this, I guess I sort of hope that the person keeping them for me right now is listening. And if they are, I really did mean to try and clean off the earwax that has built up around those silicone ear tip things. And that is absolutely my bad. I will take ownership and accountability of that. But why do I keep watching them? I purchase new ones. And again, to the person that may be using them right now, my kids will will eat again next week and it's almost summer. Who needs soles on their shoes anyway, right? But I'm kidding. I know that continually checking and wondering and ruminating, it really doesn't help me pretty much in any way, shape or form. And speaking of wondering and ruminating, how often do we find ourselves trying to psychoanalyze why we did something that perhaps we aren't very proud of? Or why did my spouse not tell me that they were unhappy? Or Why did my partner engage in an emotional or a physical affair? So why do you think she did that? That is a question that I was asked three different times yesterday, literally in my office, followed closely by, well, why do you think he did that? Being asked two different times.

[00:01:24] And then receiving the bronze medal in therapy yesterday was, Well, why do you think that I did that? So we really do want to make sense of things. We want to try to figure things out. We want to fix, we want to solve and bless our little pink, squishy hearts. If that isn't just the most adorable thing, because in all honesty, we're trying to figure out why someone else did something without being them and without having their lifetime of experiences. That, in essence, led them to do whatever they did, whatever that is. But just trying to figure everything out, trying to understand why somebody did something or why we keep doing what...