In Episode 149, Lauren sits down with Marcy Bursac, adoptive mom, author, national advocate, and founder of The Forgotten Adoption Option, to talk about what happens when adoption isn’t Plan B…but Plan A.
Marcy shares how a visit to Moldova changed the trajectory of her life and led her to the desire to adopt. But when she stepped into the U.S. foster care system to adopt a sibling pair, she encountered something she didn’t expect: confusion, delays, misdirection, and a lack of clear guidance. Like many prospective adoptive parents, she found that while adoption from foster care is publicly encouraged, the pathway toward actually adopting can feel unclear.
Out of that frustration and deep love for children waiting for families The Forgotten Adoption Option was born. As a national 501(c)(3), the organization exists to close the gap between awareness and action. Marcy explains how thousands of adults raise their hands to adopt, only to be rerouted into foster licensing processes without clear communication about what adoption specifically requires. That disconnect leaves families discouraged and children, especially sibling groups, waiting longer for permanency.
In our conversation, Marcy shares:
- Why foster care adoption is often misunderstood
- The biggest barriers prospective adoptive parents face
- How culture change is needed
- The emotional realities of adopting siblings
- How clarity and education can reduce friction in the system
Through books for adults and children, a free adoption planning app, a nationally distributed reading program, research, coaching, and her own podcast, Marcy has supported more than 12,000 prospective adoptive parents across the United States.
If you’ve ever wondered whether adoption might be part of your story or you simply want to understand the reality behind foster care adoption, this conversation will move you from awareness to action.
Because sometimes the stranger you’re meant to meet becomes family.
Learn more: The Forgotten Adoption Option
Get Marcy's books: https://forgottenadoptionoption.org/books
Check out the podcast: https://pod.link/1542072701
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Lauren Hansen, M.Ed., is a natural storyteller and creative consultant who believes that love + words can set people free and transform relationships. As the founder of Lauren Hansen Consulting LLC, she specializes in creative consulting that guides individuals through every step of the book writing process, hosts inspiring workshops that guide people toward becoming the greatest versions of themselves, and pioneers meaningful projects with organizations that impact the globe.
As an author, speaker, and podcaster, Lauren is passionate about helping people see themselves and others more clearly, fostering deeper connections through powerful communication. She’s the host of the Strangers on The Way Podcast, author of Strangers on The Way: Finding God Through the People We Meet and Behind the Waterfall: Navigating the Uncharted Waters of Grief, and the creator of the Wholeness Journal series.
Lauren’s mission is to empower individuals to love boldly, communicate honestly, and thrive in every connection. In her free time, you’ll find her hosting spontaneous living room dance parties with her large extended family in Chicago.
Learn more at laurenhansencreative.com.