Until I learned that I was not my emotions, I was not able to understand that I didn't need to be defined by them.  It's a process of letting go, healing, realization of myself and forgiveness of myself for myself.  I feel better, younger, more free and alive and happier than I have when I was in my 20's.  I've learned so, so much over the years.  I went thru a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering in the past but now that I know better I can live more free.