It is common to hear "submission is a gift." The premise is that the submissive holds all the power until they agree to cede some to a dominant. At any time the submissive may withdraw power.

This concept is often presented as a way to help people not familiar with kink to feel better about trying kink. However, submission is much more complex and more nuanced that the concept of "submission as a gift." Explore how submission and control interplay in many kink relationships.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://loveletterstoaunicorn.com/2020/05/04/submission-and-control/