Some days it feels like you are shining for everyone else while quietly dimming your own light.

In this week’s episode of Success Matters, I sit down with actor, spiritual coach and creator of House of Wisdom, Buckso Dhillon, to explore what happens when life rips away the identities you have been clinging to and forces you to ask, “Who am I really, without all of this?”

Here are three grounded actions Buckso invites you to take if you want a life that feels successful on the inside, not just impressive on the outside.

1. Choose to wake up: cultivate self‑awareness
   

• Start by noticing where you are living for approval, expectation or old stories, rather than from your own truth.
  

• Buckso’s SPARKLE process begins with S for self‑awareness, because until you see your patterns, you cannot change them or discover your deeper purpose.
  

2. Unearth the diamond within: do the inner work
   

• Instead of waiting for a crisis or grief to crack you open, consciously create space to go inward, question who you are beyond roles, culture and family expectations, and allow old identities to fall away.
  

• Like a diamond forming under pressure, many versions of you will “disintegrate” so that a more resilient, authentic self can emerge and finally shine.
  

3. Know your core values and protect them
   

• Get radically clear on your true core values and notice which one is currently being compromised in your work, relationships or lifestyle.
  

• Use them as your inner compass; it becomes much easier to say “no”, to walk away, or to redefine success when you can simply say, “That does not align with my values.”
  

Listen to the full episode to hear Buckso’s story of “losing” her voice, finding it again in a completely new way and creating Haus of Wisdom as a resource she wishes she had 30 years ago. Then ask yourself: where is your own brilliance waiting to be unearthed?

https://hausofwisdom.com/