Sun Tzu wrote, “We cannot enter into alliances until we are acquainted with the designs of our neighbors.”

Translation? Don’t shake hands until you know what the other hand is hiding.

This isn’t just about military strategy — it’s about life, leadership, business, relationships, and your personal mission. Sun Tzu was reminding us that alliances are powerful, but they’re not free. Every connection, every partnership, every agreement has consequences. And before you bind yourself to someone else’s journey, you better understand where they’re going — and why.

Because not everyone moving in your direction is going to the same destination.

In your life, you're going to face moments where alliances look tempting. Maybe it’s a business deal that promises quick returns. A partnership that looks strong on paper. A friend or colleague who talks a good game but hides a selfish agenda. The world is full of people who want to ride your momentum — but not everyone wants to build with you. Some just want to use you.

That’s why you have to lead with clarity, not desperation. You don’t need to say yes to every opportunity. You don’t need to be liked by everyone. And you definitely don’t need to be in alliance with someone just because they offer flattery, money, or convenience.

Here’s what Sun Tzu teaches: First, observe. Ask questions. Study intentions. What motivates them? What do they gain? What do they sacrifice? What’s their reputation when the battle drags on and things get hard?

That applies to people and to choices. Be just as critical of your own decisions. Are you aligning with your values, or just reacting out of fear or impatience? Are you forming alliances that strengthen your mission — or distract from it?

Real power comes from strategic alignment — not random connection.

And look, this isn’t about becoming cold or suspicious. It’s about becoming wise. When you know the designs of your neighbors — when you understand who they are, what they want, and where they’re headed — you can build alliances that last. That’s when trust is real. That’s when you stop wasting energy watching your back and start moving forward with purpose.

So here’s your battle plan: Slow down. Evaluate. Don’t be afraid to walk alone for a little while. Because when you finally do form that alliance — whether it’s in business, life, or love — it will be earned, intentional, and unbreakable.

Sun Tzu didn’t say don’t form alliances. He said do it with understanding. He said know the game before you play it. Know the players before you pass the ball.

So protect your energy. Choose your circle. Align with strength, not noise.

Because when the war drags on and the smoke thickens, only the right alliances will fight beside you — not just for victory, but for honor.

Be sharp. Be strategic.

And choose wisely.

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