Moving house is one of life’s biggest stressors - and it doesn’t just affect us humans. In this episode, we dive into how moving impacts our dogs, how to recognise the signs of stress, and what practical steps you can take to make the process smoother for everyone in the household.Linda shares her own moving experience and the unexpected ways her dogs reacted, while Caroline offers expert advice on how to reduce disruption, keep routines steady, and bring a sense of familiarity to your new home. From planning ahead to creating safe spaces, using scents, and even rethinking how you pack, this episode is packed with insights to help both you and your dogs feel calmer during a big transition.What You’ll Learn in This Episode- Why moving house ranks among the top three most stressful life events.- How dogs pick up on our stress - and the subtle ways it can show in their behaviour.- Simple strategies to keep routines consistent (meals, walks, bed placement).- The importance of familiar scents (blankets, beds, even water!) to ease the transition.- Should your dog stay home or be elsewhere on moving day?- How to reframe packing and suitcases so they don’t trigger anxiety.- Aromatherapy and floral waters: safe ways to introduce calming scents for dogs.- Stress-management tips for humans too - like the “top 3 priorities” system and quick restorative power naps.

While this episode marks a short break in the podcast, we welcome listeners to share any questions about human or dog behaviour or emotions that can be answered in upcoming months.

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In this week's episode, we dive deep into a profound question from one of our listeners: Can our dogs help us process and explore our stuck emotions?

Linda kicks off the discussion by drawing on her background as a zoologist, explaining that dogs can serve as a "simpler model" for understanding our own emotional responses. By observing our canine companions' body language, like changes in breathing or eye movements, we can gain a clearer awareness of our own emotional warning signs.

The conversation then explores the incredible power of dogs to bring us positive emotions and pull us out of a negative funk. A fascinating study on sleep sounds is also shared, revealing a surprising comfort found in a dog's snore.

Caroline expands on the topic by discussing the role of physical touch in the human-dog relationship. She emphasises the importance of allowing a dog to have a choice in physical contact and provides a simple, respectful method for initiating touch. This respect, she argues, not only deepens the bond with our dogs but also serves as a valuable lesson in how we interact with other humans.

Linda adds to this point by sharing a captivating study on eye contact and how showing sincere interest can make you more attractive to others.

The conversation wraps up by exploring how dogs can help with "stuck" emotions through the simple act of walking. They also provide a thoughtful and important perspective on using dogs to process traumatic emotions, highlighting the need for professional help in those situations.

Finally, Caroline and Linda discuss a lighter topic: the common phenomenon of a reluctant partner becoming completely smitten with a new family dog. They explain that this shift often stems from overcoming fear and learning to nurture a creature that needs them, and that this should always be celebrated, never mocked.

Don't miss this heartfelt and insightful discussion that covers everything from emotional well-being to respecting boundaries.

Got a question for us?If you have a question you'd like us to answer on the podcast, please visit speakpipe.com/bothends and leave us a message.

Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions on emotional and mental wellbeing. If anything feels concerning to you, please consider reaching out to a qualified professional for support.

In this solo episode of Supporting Both Ends of the Lead, Certified Canine Behaviourist Caroline answers a fantastic listener question about how to make travelling with your dog as smooth and stress-free as possible - specifically when heading off on a three-week campervan holiday with a young puppy.

Whether you're gearing up for a long road trip or a short weekend away, this episode offers thoughtful, practical guidance to ensure your journey is enjoyable for both you and your dog. You'll learn how to prepare your dog for time on the road, how to set up a safe and comfortable travel environment, what essentials to bring, and how to support your dog throughout the trip and on your return home.

We explore key considerations such as safety in transit, how to manage rest and stimulation, what to do about solo time, and why a smooth reintroduction to home life matters just as much as the trip itself. It’s all about preparation, flexibility, and tuning into your dog’s needs - so you can both make the most of your adventure.

Have a question of your own? We'd love to hear it. Head to speakpipe.com/bothends to leave us a voice note, and it may be featured in an upcoming episode.

Take care of both ends of the lead, and happy travels.

This week, with Linda away, Caroline tackles a common challenge many of you face: how our own anticipation can negatively impact our dog's behaviour on walks.

Today's episode focuses on a listener's submission about their dog's reactivity on walks and their own struggle with tensing up on the lead and anticipating negative encounters. Caroline explores how negative anticipation can create a stressful experience for both ends of the lead, and she offers practical tips to help you regain calm and connection before and during your walks.

Key Takeaways & Tips:

Recognise Negative Anticipation: Just as we anticipate positive events, we can also get stuck in a rut of anticipating negative outcomes on walks, leading to tension and stress for both you and your dog.

Mindset Before the Walk:

• Be mindful of your mindset before even leaving the house. Are you approaching the walk as a joyless task?

• If you feel tension building, step away from the immediate act of starting the walk. Unclip the lead or simply sit down with your dog for a moment.

• Paced Breathing: Try box breathing (inhale 4, hold 4, exhale 4, hold 4) to bring yourself back to the present moment.

• Sensory Reset: Use cold water on your wrists or a cold drink to help ground you.

Re-establish Connection:

• Affectionate Touch: If your dog enjoys it, try stroking them to the rhythm of your paced breathing to build oxytocin.

• Play: Engage in a few minutes of fun play with a favourite toy to shift energy.

• Simple Training: Practice basic, fun exercises like hand targets or the "name game" (look at you, then chase a treat) to build focus and positive association.

During the Walk - Shifting Energy:

• Lead Strokes: Instead of tensing, gently stroke the lead up and down, giving yourself a physical action to focus on.

• Scatter Treats: Place treats on the ground to encourage sniffing, a natural displacement behaviour for dogs under stress.

• Change Your Gaze: The most impactful tip! When you see a "trigger" (something that sparks a reaction in your dog), turn your body 45 degrees away and look at something else in the environment (a tree, a bench, etc.). Guide your dog's attention by moving your own energy away from the trigger. This helps you both move past the situation more calmly.

Get Involved!

We love hearing from you! If you're facing challenges with your dog and would like support on an upcoming episode, you can:

• Email: [email protected] 

• Voice Note: Visit https://www.speakpipe.com/bothends to leave us a voice message.

Thank you for tuning in and for your continued support!

This episode marks a new segment where Caroline and Linda respond directly to listener calls. This week, they address a heartfelt voice message from a listener grappling with the recent loss of her husband and the profound impact it's had on her and her two dogs.

This episode delves into the complex interplay of grief in both humans and their canine companions following a significant loss.

Caroline and Linda offer compassionate guidance and practical advice, emphasising self-kindness for the grieving human and understanding the dogs' perspective during this challenging time.

Call to Action: If you're struggling with challenges related to living with, training, or connecting with your dog, or any stresses and strains of life with your dog, please share your story by leaving a voice note at speakpipe.com/bothends.

Caroline and Linda would love to help in a future episode!

In this insightful and sometimes challenging episode, hosts Caroline Wilkinson and Linda Blair tackle a topic many dog guardians find daunting: finances. They explore how to provide the best care without succumbing to financial stress, especially during economically tricky times.

Key Discussion Points

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Dogs Come at a Cost: While dogs bring immense joy and mental health benefits, the financial commitment, especially with rising veterinary and insurance costs, can be significant.

Reducing Costs Doesn't Mean Reducing Care: A crucial takeaway is that smart financial choices don't equate to compromising your dog's well-being.

Planning for the Unexpected: The hosts emphasise the importance of being proactive with financial planning for unforeseen illnesses, injuries, or long-term medical conditions.

Importance of Third-Party Liability Insurance: Even without full medical insurance, this coverage protects you if your dog causes damage or injury to others.

Don't Equate Food with Love: Linda reminds listeners that affection and attention can be more meaningful to your dog than constant treats.

Making Mealtime Engaging: Instead of just bowl feeding, consider hand-feeding, using puzzle toys, or doing "treasure hunts" in the garden with part of their meal to slow down eating and add enrichment.

Homemade Treats: Save money by baking your own dog treats using inexpensive ingredients like liver or kidney.

Remember, money is a tool, not an end in itself. Your presence and love are the most important things to your dog.

What are some of your best tips for managing dog-related expenses without compromising care? Add a comment below.

And if you'd like Caroline and Linda's support on a future episode of 'Supporting Both Ends of the Lead', then please leave a message with a brief summary of the challenge you're experiencing alongside your dog at: https://www.speakpipe.com/bothends

In this episode of “Both Ends of the Lead,” we explore the complex and very human emotion of guilt that so often surfaces in our relationships with our dogs. Whether it's frustration during a walk or regret after reacting poorly, guilt can weigh us down - but it doesn't have to define us.

Caroline and Linda delve into how to recognise emotional triggers, reflect calmly after the moment has passed, and use that reflection as a tool for growth - for both you and your dog

Discover how understanding your own patterns and your dog’s responses can lead to more compassionate, conflict-free connections.

Our traditional “Just One Thing” segment encourages simple practices like breathing intentionally and knowing when to reflect - that can transform guilt into grounded, positive action.

Have a challenge you’d like help with? We want to hear from you! Submit your voice message at speakpipe.com/bothends for a chance to be featured in a future episode.

Tune in and take the first step toward releasing guilt and returning to the joyful heart of dog parenting: love.

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, Caroline and Linda tackle a topic that many tend to avoid: pain - both in dogs and humans. With their signature openness and compassion, they explore the emotional and physical aspects of pain, how it manifests in our canine companions, and what we can do to better understand and support them.

Caroline shares her experience as a canine behaviourist, revealing how behavioural challenges in dogs often have underlying pain-related causes, and why it's critical for dog guardians to recognise subtle signs. The conversation highlights how pain - especially when unexpected or chronic - can cause dogs to form negative associations and develop fears or phobias, sometimes in surprising ways.

Linda draws rich parallels from human psychology, discussing how emotional pain and physical pain are deeply intertwined, both in people and in animals. Together, they unpack real-life examples, from noise phobias and reactive behaviour to trauma responses rooted in past painful events.

Listeners will learn:

• Why dogs may react aggressively or anxiously due to undiagnosed pain

• The role of anticipation and muscle memory in pain-related responses

• How to help a dog (or a child) recover from pain-related fear

• Why relaxation techniques, scent therapy, and environmental support matter

• The importance of getting a proper vet check and considering a pain trial if behavioural issues arise

Whether you're a pet parent, behaviourist, or simply an empathetic listener, this episode offers valuable insights into the invisible role pain plays in shaping behaviour—and how we can respond with patience, curiosity, and care.

In this thoughtful and encouraging episode, the hosts of Both Ends of the Lead return with a deep dive into the concept of habit - how it forms, how it affects both humans and dogs, and how we can consciously reshape habits to create less stress and more joy in our lives.

Caroline and Linda explore the three-part structure of habits (cue, response, reward), how stress and emotion influence behaviour, and how we can use shaping, positive reinforcement, and thoughtful awareness to change unhelpful patterns.

The episode also emphasises the interconnectedness of human and dog well-being and invites listener participation for future Q&A episodes via submitting their challenges at: https://www.speakpipe.com/bothendshttps://www.speakpipe.com/bothends

Main Points and Summary

• Hosts are thrilled to be back and reconnecting with listeners.

• The podcast focuses on mutual support for humans and their dogs.

• Today's topic: rethinking habits - both positive and negative.

• Habits are learned behaviours, not something we’re born with.

• They form through repeated experiences in a specific environment.

• Cited author: Charles Duhigg, The Power of Habit.

  • Habits consist of 3 parts:

    1. Cue (Trigger)

    2. Response (Behaviour)

    3. Reward (Relief or Pleasure)

• Important distinction: Rewards can be positive (treat, dopamine) or simply relief from stress or discomfort.

• Habits can be mental, emotional, or physical and often occur without conscious thought.

• Dogs form habits just like humans, and these can either support or hinder well-being.

• Example: A dog pulls on the lead → human tightens it → dog gets some desired outcome (space, relief, etc.).

• This creates a habit loop for both dog and guardian.

• Emotional drivers like anxiety, fear, frustration often reinforce less helpful habits.

• Stress impacts both decision-making and reaction times, often causing us to revert to ingrained habits.

• When stressed, we bypass reasoning - important to slow down and reassess.

• Professionals (trainers, coaches) provide outside perspective and can help navigate these emotional reactions.

• Effective change is rarely immediate - it requires patience, consistency, and awareness.

• For humans: Reward yourself for sticking to new behaviours, even in small ways (e.g., using a coin jar to reinforce your success).

• For dogs: Focus on shaping behaviour gradually with positive reinforcement.

  • Example: Replace lunging with sniffing games or redirection using treats.

  • Be mindful of physical space, triggers, and arousal levels.

• Important tip: When trying to replace an undesirable behaviour, the new behaviour must be equally or more rewarding to be effective.

• Linda shared an example of asking her dog to “sit” when people approach.

• Caroline explains this may bottle up emotion and lead to a more explosive release.

• Alternative: Use movement-based redirection (scatter feeding, treat tosses) or create space from the trigger.

• Strategy: Allow the dog to express energy in constructive ways rather than suppress it.

• The hosts encourage listeners to submit challenges or questions for future podcast episodes.

• Share stories or queries at speakpipe.com/bothends.

• Contributions can be anonymous and will help tailor the podcast to audience needs.

• Habits influence everything - from daily routines to emotional responses.

• Awareness, understanding, and reshaping habits (for both dogs and people) can lead to calmer, more joyful lives together.

• The road to change involves recognising emotional triggers and practicing more helpful behaviours, step by step.

In this episode Caroline and Linda debate another intriguing topic:

What is altruism, and what is its purpose?

Is altruism only evident in humans, or can dogs behave altruistically?

Linda begins by defining altruism. She goes on to explain how scientists discovered the reason for altruistic behaviour—which, it turns out, is to maximise the chance that a species as a whole will survive and thrive. She also lists the many ‘side benefits’ of altruism, including better health, greater happiness, even increased longevity.

But can other species—in our case of course, dogs—also behave altruistically? Caroline explains, and adds a cross-species benefit: having a dog in the family can teach children to behave more responsibly and altruistically. 

But with altruism, like so many other good qualities, Linda emphasises the importance of balance. Altruism to the exclusion of self-care, she warns, creates a victim mentality, which helps neither helper nor the helped.

Caroline closes this episode—the last in the first series—by encouraging listeners to extend kindness to their dog, and to behave altruistically rather than competitively towards other pet parents.

Finally, while waiting for the next series of podcasts, everyone is encouraged to send Caroline and Linda examples from their own experience and to offer suggestions for further podcasts, so they can make the next series as relevant to as many listeners as possible.

What's inside this episode?

00:00 Introduction, including a definition of altruism.

02:06 Why altruistic behaviour exists and continues.

04:26 The ‘side benefits’ of altruism.

05:05 Altruistic behaviour of dog to dog is often seen. Altruistic behaviour of dog to humans is more complex.

09:53 The importance of observing animals to help us better understand humans.

11:05 The neurochemical rewards when humans and dogs behave altruistically.

12:07 How having a family pet can encourage altruistic behaviour in young children.

14:48 The importance of maintaining a balance between behaving altruistically towards others and caring for oneself.

18:27 The importance of balancing online social interactions with face to face encounters.

22:26 A reminder to try to be more altruistic than competitive towards other pet parents.

23:56 Encouraging altruism towards your dog.

25:10 Just one thing: ‘Get out there and give!’

26:00 Caroline and Linda close this episode, explaining it’s the end of the first series of Supporting Both Ends of the Lead. Listeners are encouraged to send in experiences and suggestions about what they’d like to hear in the next series.

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Your Hosts

Caroline Wilkinson is a Certified Animal Behaviourist. She is a Full (assessed) Member of the APDT and INTODogs – as well as a Registered Training Instructor (ABTC). Caroline is also a Certified Real Dog Yoga Practitioner and an Applied Canine Zoopharmacognosist. Caroline writes for Pets Radar, as well as a number of trusted pet brands. She also speaks around the country – presenting workshops and webinars with a focus on living more mindfully alongside our canine companions.

Dr. Linda Blair is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist, Chartered Scientist, Associate Fellow of the British Psychological Society and registered as a Practitioner Psychologist in the Health and Care Professions Council. She trained at Harvard and the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and has offered cognitive behavioural and mindfulness-based psychotherapy for over 40 years in the NHS and privately. She has also taught various aspects of psychology at the University of Cambridge and the Open University.