Most men drift into default relationships—familiar, convenient, and safe—but rarely transformative. Andrew and guest Ryan Michler (Order of Man; founder of the 1,100+ member Iron Council; author of Sovereignty and The Masculinity Manifesto) break down how to replace comfort with deliberate brotherhood that sharpens rather than shatters.
They discuss the Order of Man framework—Protect, Provide, Preside—and the four pillars behind it: Calibration (mental/emotional/spiritual health), Connections (marriage, kids, brothers, mentors), Condition (fitness, nutrition, sleep), and Contribution (becoming a man of value). Expect candid talk on vulnerability without self-pity, why most “help” should follow effort, simple health habits that outperform biohacks, and practical paths from corporate stuckness to meaningful work. The through-line: fatherhood isn’t a solo mission; iron sharpens iron when men choose it on purpose. 

Key Takeaways

 

• Default vs. Deliberate: Most friendships are convenient, not constructed. Progress requires systems, standards, and accountability.
• Brotherhood Over Isolation: Real growth happens in a band of brothers that tells you the truth, calls you up, and won’t let you hide.
• Sharpen, Don’t Shatter: Critique without contempt; accountability without tearing down.
• Health as Duty: Fitness, nutrition, sleep, and recovery fuel presence at home—more energy for your kids > another burger and slump.
• Do the Work First: Communities should rally behind men already taking action; contribution beats crowdfunding your responsibilities.
• From Stuck to Building: Start on the side, buy time with discipline, and invest in a tribe—results follow sustained right actions.
• Protect • Provide • Preside: A simple compass for dads who want to lead well.