We’ve all been there at some point, chasing the next milestone, be it a promotion, car, the business with a big team to support you. And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with wanting those things. But here’s the question: are they really yours to want?

So often, these desires come pre-packaged by society, family or even the environments we grew up in. They’re gifts, yes, but not necessarily gifts you picked out for yourself. Instead, they’re wrapped up in layers of comparison and “shoulds.” You know what I mean: I should want that because it’s what success looks like or I should follow this path because I’ve already invested so much time into it. Sound familiar?

Surface desires, the ones driven by comparison or external validation, don’t fill the gap you’re hoping they will. You might hit that milestone, celebrate for a moment, and then...nothing. You’re back in the cycle, chasing the next shiny thing.

Soul desires, though? Oh, they’re different. Soul desires aren’t loud. They don’t come from looking at what someone else has. They come from within, aligned with who you are and what lights you up. They’re the things that feel peaceful, energising and fulfilling because they’re rooted in your truth.

How do you know the difference? Simple: surface desires make you feel like you’re running after the bus. Soul desires make you feel like you’re driving it.

So, I want you to sit with this: What do you truly, deeply want? Not just what you’ve been told you should want—what feels true to you? Because once you get clear on that, everything changes. You stop chasing, you start creating, and you step into alignment with who you really are.

This is your permission slip to let go of the “shoulds” and rewrite your story, your way.

Journal Prompts

* Where in my life do I feel like I’m chasing something, but it still feels out of reach?

* What’s one desire I’ve been holding onto that might not actually be mine?

* If there were no rules, no expectations and no pressure, what would I truly want?

* How do I feel when I think about my current goals? Energised or drained?

* What’s one belief or “should” I’m ready to let go of to make room for my soul desires?

Your desires—your real ones—are your compass. Trust them.

Keep going, keep growing,

Avril x

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