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Today, we are discussing the art of surrender. How do you do it? How can letting go of control bring peace and not anxiety? For us who love control, surrender is an interesting concept to consider! I share 5 steps that help me when I need to stop forcing and start allowing things to fall into place.

Do you continue to stubbornly force a square peg into a round hole, no matter how long it takes? I do! But I have learned that when something is stuck or not making progress, I need to consider that there is a better way. When I step back and allow things to simply happen… rather than force them to… I let go of a lot of angst! And I have more energy to use for other things.

We discussed 5 steps that help me let go of control and surrender:

1. Accept what is. What is the current of life wanting to see happen and how I am I getting in the way of that?
2. Ask the situation what it’s trying to teach you. Step out of the frustration long enough to see what its teaching you! The sooner you learn, the better the flow!
3. Apply gratitude to the situation. HUGE STEP! Giving thanks for creating an outcome that is SUPPOSED to happen, while letting go of what doesn’t need to happen, can be serving our highest good! So, give thanks for that guidance.
4. Last, surrender to what IS happening instead of trying to control what isn’t. You have a choice about how you’re going to respond, and if you surrender to that choice, you stand a much better chance of not having the situation spiral down into helpless victim status. To me, laying back in a state of surrender is all about TRUSTING something other than yourself… God, higher power, angels, the universe, whatever!
5. Stay unattached to the outcome. Quit looking at what you wanted and start looking for the miracle or blessing in whatever it was that you got. If you continue to stare at a closed door, you miss everything that lies outside the open window!

Our resistance is a huge cause of suffering. Acceptance. Curiosity. Gratitude. And Surrender are the keys to transcending the discomfort of our stories.

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