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Surviving A Narcissistic Relationship - An Interview with Nilgun Tulu
Ep #355 - Surviving A Narcissistic Relationship - An Interview with Nilgun Tulu
I am truly honored to have this beautiful woman joining me for this conversation.
It is my privilege to welcome Nilgun Tulu to Empowering Chats.
Nilgun spent 20 years with a narcissist. 13 of those years in a marriage. In the beginning, he appeared to be the prince on the white horse. He knew exactly how to make her feel special, showering her with attention, affection, and what seemed like perfect love. But it wasn’t perfect.
She met him when she was just 24 years old. He was nearly 20 years her senior, though he initially hid his age from her. She was young and vulnerable and adjusting to be a foreigner in the United States. Like many women in similar situations, she was naïve and fell under his spell.
After some time together, she returned to her home country and they maintained a long-distance relationship before eventually marrying. There were warning signs along the way, but she believed many of the behaviors he exhibited were normal, so she stayed committed to the relationship.
Eventually, they moved overseas. That is when things began to change. He started blaming her for everything and refused to take responsibility for his own actions. When she returned to the United States, he stayed behind and maintained control of their finances.
What she later discovered was devastating. He had been planning much of this all along, keeping her completely in the dark. He hid money, removed funds from their joint accounts, and manipulated her into questioning her own reality, making her feel confused, delusional, and doubtful of herself.
So how is she moving forward?
Nilgun is fighting for what she legally deserves after years of hard work and contribution to the marriage. She is not willing to simply walk away and allow his current wife to benefit from what she rightfully earned.
Her ex believes she deserves none of it.
But just because a woman does not work outside the home does not mean she is not working. The labor of a wife, partner, or stay-at-home mother carries tremendous value. Women often manage households, provide emotional support, raise children, and keep families functioning—all without receiving a paycheck.
That work matters. It has value. And Nilgun’s story is a powerful reminder that every contribution to a partnership deserves to be recognized.
Check out Nilgun's Substack: Substack.com/@nilguntulu
To learn more about how show up in the world visit: SusanBurrell.com
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Ep #355 - Surviving A Narcissistic Relationship - An Interview with Nilgun Tulu
I am truly honored to have this beautiful woman joining me for this conversation.
It is my privilege to welcome Nilgun Tulu to Empowering Chats.
Nilgun spent 20 years with a narcissist. 13 of those years in a marriage. In the beginning, he appeared to be the prince on the white horse. He knew exactly how to make her feel special, showering her with attention, affection, and what seemed like perfect love. But it wasn’t perfect.
She met him when she was just 24 years old. He was nearly 20 years her senior, though he initially hid his age from her. She was young and vulnerable and adjusting to be a foreigner in the United States. Like many women in similar situations, she was naïve and fell under his spell.
After some time together, she returned to her home country and they maintained a long-distance relationship before eventually marrying. There were warning signs along the way, but she believed many of the behaviors he exhibited were normal, so she stayed committed to the relationship.
Eventually, they moved overseas. That is when things began to change. He started blaming her for everything and refused to take responsibility for his own actions. When she returned to the United States, he stayed behind and maintained control of their finances.
What she later discovered was devastating. He had been planning much of this all along, keeping her completely in the dark. He hid money, removed funds from their joint accounts, and manipulated her into questioning her own reality, making her feel confused, delusional, and doubtful of herself.
So how is she moving forward?
Nilgun is fighting for what she legally deserves after years of hard work and contribution to the marriage. She is not willing to simply walk away and allow his current wife to benefit from what she rightfully earned.
Her ex believes she deserves none of it.
But just because a woman does not work outside the home does not mean she is not working. The labor of a wife, partner, or stay-at-home mother carries tremendous value. Women often manage households, provide emotional support, raise children, and keep families functioning—all without receiving a paycheck.
That work matters. It has value. And Nilgun’s story is a powerful reminder that every contribution to a partnership deserves to be recognized.
Check out Nilgun's Substack: Substack.com/@nilguntulu
To learn more about how show up in the world visit: SusanBurrell.com