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We speak with family lawyer and Divorce Detox founder Cassandra Calpaxis about how coercive control can continue through separation and be amplified by the family court process. We focus on practical steps that protect victim survivors, strengthen evidence, and reduce the chaos that abusers rely on. 

• what systems abuse looks like in family court and how it plays out in real time

• last-minute disclosure, repeated filings, and baseless allegations as coercive tactics 

• record keeping as protection against gaslighting and memory disruption 

• why affidavits carry so much weight at interim hearings

• how recent family law reforms sharpen the focus on child safety and safe co-parenting 

• early warning signs of emotional abuse including love-bombing and isolation 

• technology-facilitated abuse through tracking, social media maps, AirTags and smart devices 

• why coercive control prosecutions are rare and what that means on the ground 

• practical ways to make court safer including remote appearances and safety plans 

• the childcare and breastfeeding gaps that still disadvantage women 

• decompression and vicarious trauma strategies for people working in this space 

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Episode Resources 

You can chat with DV specific AI, Aimee Says 24/7 at https://www.ladynews.com.au/

https://kalpaxislegal.com.au/about-us/

https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/PowerandControl.pdf

You can also live chat with https://www.beyondblue.org.au/

and https://1800respect.org.au/online-chat-1800respect

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