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When you listen to Pam Fine, you hear strength. You hear poise, positivity, intelligence, confidence, courage. You hear someone who is in control of her life and her destiny. Pam is an educator and a counselor, and you hear that experience and wisdom in her voice as well.
The abuse that Pam suffered for 20 months at the hands of Joe Tumpkin did not and does not define her. In fact, the violence she suffered became almost secondary to the miscarriage of justice, the abuse that she suffered during an agonizing 28-month legal process. The University of Colorado made the conscious decision to dismiss her concerns and suffering, thereby endangering her and others. And the Adams County District Attorney doubled down by assigning a biased attorney to prosecute her case. The actions of these officials – all men – caused as much trauma as the hands around her neck.
Pam’s is a harrowing story not just of domestic violence, but of systemic failure in which victims are dismissed, shamed, and blamed. Hers is the classic example of why so many victims choose not to come forward – the process of seeking justice is just as bad, if not worse, as the abuse itself.
We hear again that Domestic Violence abusers follow a playbook – previous relationships with violence, infidelity, alcohol abuse, explosive rage, stalking. This is not normal. If you are in a relationship with these signs, you need to leave. What Pam wants everyone to know is that Domestic Violence happens to strong, confident people. There is no shame in what happened to you, and you deserve better.
Additional information about Pam’s experience can be found here:
- Alex Fine’s Haven Shelter Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/almost-home-run-for-dv-victims
- Sports Illustrated: https://www.si.com/college/2017/02/03/colorado-football-joe-tumpkin-assault-case
- Westword: https://www.westword.com/news/for-pam-fine-surviving-a-cu-coach-joe-tumpkins-abuse-was-just-the-beginning-11062956
- Associated Press: https://apnews.com/f54a3b268aca4058bf7d7a74d28445ab
For information about the correlation between strangulation and lethality: https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/all-abusers-are-not-equal-new-ipv-research-reveals-an-indicator-of-deadly-abuse/
The abuse that Pam suffered for 20 months at the hands of Joe Tumpkin did not and does not define her. In fact, the violence she suffered became almost secondary to the miscarriage of justice, the abuse that she suffered during an agonizing 28-month legal process. The University of Colorado made the conscious decision to dismiss her concerns and suffering, thereby endangering her and others. And the Adams County District Attorney doubled down by assigning a biased attorney to prosecute her case. The actions of these officials – all men – caused as much trauma as the hands around her neck.
Pam’s is a harrowing story not just of domestic violence, but of systemic failure in which victims are dismissed, shamed, and blamed. Hers is the classic example of why so many victims choose not to come forward – the process of seeking justice is just as bad, if not worse, as the abuse itself.
We hear again that Domestic Violence abusers follow a playbook – previous relationships with violence, infidelity, alcohol abuse, explosive rage, stalking. This is not normal. If you are in a relationship with these signs, you need to leave. What Pam wants everyone to know is that Domestic Violence happens to strong, confident people. There is no shame in what happened to you, and you deserve better.
Additional information about Pam’s experience can be found here:
- Alex Fine’s Haven Shelter Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/almost-home-run-for-dv-victims
- Sports Illustrated: https://www.si.com/college/2017/02/03/colorado-football-joe-tumpkin-assault-case
- Westword: https://www.westword.com/news/for-pam-fine-surviving-a-cu-coach-joe-tumpkins-abuse-was-just-the-beginning-11062956
- Associated Press: https://apnews.com/f54a3b268aca4058bf7d7a74d28445ab
For information about the correlation between strangulation and lethality: https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/all-abusers-are-not-equal-new-ipv-research-reveals-an-indicator-of-deadly-abuse/
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When you listen to Pam Fine, you hear strength. You hear poise, positivity, intelligence, confidence, courage. You hear someone who is in control of her life and her destiny. Pam is an educator and a counselor, and you hear that experience and wisdom in her voice as well.
The abuse that Pam suffered for 20 months at the hands of Joe Tumpkin did not and does not define her. In fact, the violence she suffered became almost secondary to the miscarriage of justice, the abuse that she suffered during an agonizing 28-month legal process. The University of Colorado made the conscious decision to dismiss her concerns and suffering, thereby endangering her and others. And the Adams County District Attorney doubled down by assigning a biased attorney to prosecute her case. The actions of these officials – all men – caused as much trauma as the hands around her neck.
Pam’s is a harrowing story not just of domestic violence, but of systemic failure in which victims are dismissed, shamed, and blamed. Hers is the classic example of why so many victims choose not to come forward – the process of seeking justice is just as bad, if not worse, as the abuse itself.
We hear again that Domestic Violence abusers follow a playbook – previous relationships with violence, infidelity, alcohol abuse, explosive rage, stalking. This is not normal. If you are in a relationship with these signs, you need to leave. What Pam wants everyone to know is that Domestic Violence happens to strong, confident people. There is no shame in what happened to you, and you deserve better.
Additional information about Pam’s experience can be found here:
- Alex Fine’s Haven Shelter Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/almost-home-run-for-dv-victims
- Sports Illustrated: https://www.si.com/college/2017/02/03/colorado-football-joe-tumpkin-assault-case
- Westword: https://www.westword.com/news/for-pam-fine-surviving-a-cu-coach-joe-tumpkins-abuse-was-just-the-beginning-11062956
- Associated Press: https://apnews.com/f54a3b268aca4058bf7d7a74d28445ab
For information about the correlation between strangulation and lethality: https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/all-abusers-are-not-equal-new-ipv-research-reveals-an-indicator-of-deadly-abuse/
The abuse that Pam suffered for 20 months at the hands of Joe Tumpkin did not and does not define her. In fact, the violence she suffered became almost secondary to the miscarriage of justice, the abuse that she suffered during an agonizing 28-month legal process. The University of Colorado made the conscious decision to dismiss her concerns and suffering, thereby endangering her and others. And the Adams County District Attorney doubled down by assigning a biased attorney to prosecute her case. The actions of these officials – all men – caused as much trauma as the hands around her neck.
Pam’s is a harrowing story not just of domestic violence, but of systemic failure in which victims are dismissed, shamed, and blamed. Hers is the classic example of why so many victims choose not to come forward – the process of seeking justice is just as bad, if not worse, as the abuse itself.
We hear again that Domestic Violence abusers follow a playbook – previous relationships with violence, infidelity, alcohol abuse, explosive rage, stalking. This is not normal. If you are in a relationship with these signs, you need to leave. What Pam wants everyone to know is that Domestic Violence happens to strong, confident people. There is no shame in what happened to you, and you deserve better.
Additional information about Pam’s experience can be found here:
- Alex Fine’s Haven Shelter Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/almost-home-run-for-dv-victims
- Sports Illustrated: https://www.si.com/college/2017/02/03/colorado-football-joe-tumpkin-assault-case
- Westword: https://www.westword.com/news/for-pam-fine-surviving-a-cu-coach-joe-tumpkins-abuse-was-just-the-beginning-11062956
- Associated Press: https://apnews.com/f54a3b268aca4058bf7d7a74d28445ab
For information about the correlation between strangulation and lethality: https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/all-abusers-are-not-equal-new-ipv-research-reveals-an-indicator-of-deadly-abuse/