Don't try to skip the process because you will literally miss some steps that will hinder you when you least expect it. There is nothing wrong with taking the time that you will need to heal. everyone has a different type of healing which means that we all heal differently. What may not take long for others to heal, may take you years. Don't compare yourself to anyone else although their circumstance may seem equal to yours. In all reality, it is completely different. We have different upbringings. We are not the same.