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  • #20 — How to Make the Leap & Stop Living on the Sidelines | Take What You Need Podcast

    Have you watched someone else do or say the thing you had been planning to do but you were too afraid to go for it? You had spent time analysing, getting advice and wondering whether you should take the leap… and now someone else has. 

    • We ask ourselves:

    • What will people say?

    • What if it doesn’t work out?

    • What if they judge me?

    • So many decisions in life feel like “life or death”. Maybe not literal life or death, but societal, emotional and financial. 

      And eventually, we default to living a life that’s smaller than what it was meant to be, and who wants that? Definitely not me. That’s not why we’re here. That’s probably not why you’re reading this right now.

      This week’s episode is all about this. Enjoy. 

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      And these things stop us in our tracks.They paralyse us. 

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          • 27 min
          • #19 The Art of (Spiritual) Manifestation

            ICYMI, I published the first of many life updates over the weekend. Take a look and vote on what you think!

            Manifestation.

            What do you think of when you hear the word? Do you think it’s unrealistic, or do you think it represents a movement that is in fundamental opposition to your values?

            One thing that’s interesting to me is some of the ‘newest’, ‘trendiest’ terms can be traced back to ancient spiritual principles. It’s not as ‘out there’ or as ‘selfish’ as people think. On the other hand, it’s actually an essential part of what it means to live a life that is truly aligned with your inner self, that brings a level of peace that has no comparison.

            I’d say the art of manifestation is one of the reasons I’ve been calmer and at more peace for the last 4 years straight, despite the uncertainties and challenges of life. In this episode, I unpack some of the most impactful, yet rarely discussed elements of manifestation… from a spiritual lens.

            Enjoy!

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                • 34 min
                • #18 The Case Against “Moving In Silence”

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                  “Move in silence”

                  “Be careful of evil eye”

                  “Be mysterious online”

                  Many of us, including me, have lived by these mantras… in my view, to our detriment. It’s time to change that. In this episode I unpack aaaallll the reasons why you should let go of moving in silence this summer (and beyond)

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                  • 00:00 — Speaking it into existence ≠ moving in silence

                  • 09:35 — Let’s talk about Joseph, because people keep misinterpreting the story and it’s upsetting me

                  • 26:40 — Do you believe there’s wisdom in a multitude of counsellors, or not?

                  • 27:36 — Oh, is that me talking in depth about my personal life? Maybe.

                  • 34:15 — “I’ve been betrayed, I don’t want to go through that again, what should I do?”

                  • 34:17 — How to deal with betrayal - “After all, computers crash, people die, relationships fall apart. The best we can do is breathe and reboot.” — Carrie Bradshaw


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                        • 38 min
                        • #17 How to Deal with Unanswered Prayers & What To Do While You’re Waiting

                          How do you keep going when nothing is working? How do you deal with unanswered prayers? No matter how ‘good’ things appear, most of us are still hoping for SOMETHING. At the end of 2023, I found myself in tears, unable to trust the process. My hope was lost, I had so much frustration and I was just over it.

                          Here’s how I found my way back to clarity and peace. I hope it helps you too. Let me know what you think!

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                          Also, thank you SO much for sharing and celebrating the podcast. You are the reason I’m continuing. I’m excited about the potential — not just of our page growth but of the internal TRANSFORMATION happening on the inside of every single one of us.

                          If you’re a visual person, subscribe to my YouTube channel — I’ll be posting more ‘lifestyle’ content this year. Firing on all cylinders. Happy Friday!


                          21 min
                        • #16 Q&A: Friendships, “No Days Off” & Making Better Decisions

                          I’m SO excited about this episode because there’s SO. MUCH.  that we cover! I asked on our Instagram stories which questions and dilemmas you guys have, and now I’m answering them from my POV. 

                          I answer:

                          • How to grow, manage and maintain GOOD quality friendships (there’s layers to this)
                          • How to balance rest and wellness in our fast-paced world (spoiler alert: fasting is a game changer)
                          • How to be “wise” - i.e. how to make decisions and think in a way that improves the quality of your life
                          • I really enjoyed answering the questions in this episode, if you have more dilemmas or general questions please DM me on the @takewhatyouneedpodcast Instagram! Please add as MUCH detail as possible, it makes the entire experience so much richer.

                            P.S. My ‘New Year’ is alllllll of January and February, so it’s not too late to get your 2024 Playbook. Join over 1,000 users and make this year as beautiful as it can be with Your interactive Year-End Playbook: https://bit.ly/2024Playbook

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                                • 31 min
                                • #15 "If it’s not a clear yes, it’s a no, darling" — 5 Principles to Stand On in 2024

                                  We don’t do New Year’s resolutions around here, instead, we digest and live by new concepts that have the power to shift our entire 2024.


                                  Accompanying this episode is the Year-End Playbook, a simple interactive guide to help you reflect on 2023 and confidently plan for 2024. The last time this was launched in 2019, over 1,000+ downloaded it and loved it — now it’s bigger and better. Get. Into. It. Download here.


                                  In this episode, I share some of my anchors for the next 365+ days ahead:

                                  1. Unapologetically ask for what you want and need - let go of the idea of self-sufficiency
                                  2. If it’s not a clear ‘yes’, then darling it’s a ‘no’ - so let them go
                                  3. Cry now, the boss up - how to feel all the feels and then move forward
                                  4. Dare to dream - why it’s okay to aspire for the highest version of your life
                                  5. Keep your appointments - enough said

                                  6. For all the links, videos etc. mentioned in this episode, take a look at the shownotes: https://bit.ly/Playbook24


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                                        • 32 min
                                        • #12 "It's okay to be the villain in someone else's story" — Breaking out of old, familiar cycles ft. Kim vs. Kourtney, Kyle Richards vs. Kathy Hilton and more

                                          This is one of those episodes that holds up a mirror to the relationships in your life... are you ready?

                                          Through a series of highly televised sibling rivalries (Kourtney vs. Kim, Kyle Richards vs. Kathy Hilton, Kendall Roy vs. Shiv Roy vs. Roman Roy) — we explore how to navigate the tension between putting yourself first and looking after yourself, vs. being part of cultural and familial systems that might just be... a little toxic.

                                          I hope this episode makes you a bit more free in some way or another.

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                                              • 37 min
                                              • #14 “Start seeing yourself as a success NOW" — How to Prepare for the New Year with Confidence

                                                It’s that time of year when we start looking back on what we’ve ‘done’ and wondering if it measures up. The question is, ‘measures up’ to what?

                                                Inspired by a recent conversation at a house party, this week’s episode explored the idea of what success looks like and can be — and how adapting the mindset that you’re a success right now, just as you are is the key to setting yourself up for even more success in the future. Enjoy!

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                                                    • 19 min
                                                    • #13 “What if it doesn’t work out?” - How to move from doubt to action with the art of hedging

                                                      It all started with this tweet: “a16z and Sequoia are wrong 90% of the time…”


                                                      If some of the greatest and smartest minds in the world have accounted for the fact that things not working out is a normal part of life, then perhaps the question ‘what if it doesn’t work’ isn’t even the right question to ask. I think we should be asking a better, more productive set of questions. 


                                                      Now, look at your own life. Are there steps you’re afraid of taking? Are there things that feel so exciting, that deep down you want to pursue but they feel ‘too risky’? Instead of sitting on the sidelines and doing nothing, ask yourself, 'how am I going to hedge against this risk?'. And maybe, just maybe you’ll get unstuck.


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                                                          • 26 min
                                                          • #11 "Your whole life can change on a single decision" — How to take ownership of your life

                                                            The best version of your life is within reach, you just have to opt in. Tony Robbins said it best, your whole life can change on a single decision.

                                                            I went to my friend's wedding in Italy, and came back inspired. I'm so glad to be back on this podcast with you guys! I'm a little rusty but we've got a new studio and team helping me behind the scenes so it's consistency from here on out! Appreciate you deeply. Speak soon!

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                                                              Welcome to Take What You Need, the podcast. This podcast is named after my first book, and many years on we’re continuing the journey of designing life on our own terms. Think of this as a weekly…