What is it costing you by looking to others for permission to grieve your way?

What is it costing you, to not address the child within you and the grief you've carried with you into adulthood from your childhood?

Grief isn't about death alone. So, don't be mistaken that because someone did not die in your childhood that you don't have grief or, that you aren't holding on to the energy of grief.

The loss of hopes, dreams, expectations - for relationships, your life, career, health, finances...
Anything you wish would've been different, better...this is grief.

We so quickly judge our grief; thinking we're not doing it "right" or, doing it badly or not quickly enough, etc. We also judge other grievers and how they're "dealing with" their grief. Which is ironic, isn't it? Since the vast majority of the population has no idea how to "deal with" their own grief, right?

We break this vicious cycle of judgment when we know better, learn new tools and information, and stop having these crazy expectations of others and ourselves.

Every relationship is unique, therefore, we cannot begin to know or understand the grief of another on the level the griever themselves knows it. It's impossible. We can relate to their story or their loss, but we can't truly know what their grief is like for them. This is why judgment is hurtful and can even be harmful.

I get on a bit of a soapbox in this episode, but this information matters to me. And, I want it to matter to you, too. THIS is how we change the conversation around grief - new knowledge, new information, and new tools. Let's end the judgment!

RESOURCES:

• Ep 90 | Jill Johnson-Young
• Ep 68 | Ken Ross (son of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross)
• Do Grief Differently™️

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